Don't get close

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I tried to respond earlier, but my internet was down for communicating..read only I guess at the time....

I know how hard relationships can be, but I just had an incident that made me realize just what I need to do to take care of myself in situations. The one thing I realize is that first of all & most important is to know where your boundaries are & what you are comfortable with. Once you are knowledgable about your own feelings, then it is easier to draw all the lines around yourself & set up walls just high enough for each situation.....but analzying the situation first is the most important step. I know somethimes things happen too fast & we are forced to make quick decisions about a situation, but I think putting on the breaks & analyzing the situation first is most important.

Looking back at the situation with the home care person who pulled the ID theft on my mother, I learned quite a bit about gut feelings & listening to my internal voice warnings. I also just had an experience with my new neighbor here in Kentucky. He is what he calls "a little agressive". I could have been pushed into a situation that I didn't want to be in, but the word "NO!!!!!!!" is the most important word in my vocabulary. I can always rethink something over time, but if I am initially pushed into something I don't want to be in, then I am always going to be sorry.

Knowing yourself & your boundaries & then letting others know the same, has become my rule to live by.......so far, this method hasn't failed me in my new life here.

Hope maybe a few things here might help with your situation.....I know relationships are tough,
Debbie

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I know there are probably some people out there that have a difficult time forming close relationships. Some PD's have that exact thing as a symptom of thier disorder. Even though they may have their heart in the right place,and really be trying to be your friend, maybe their illness made it hard for them to get close as well. Don't blame yourself,or think that you are a bad person, over a failed relationship, because they happen all the time. Not everyone is meant to be, for eachother. Some personalities just don't click with eachother. But it doesn't mean that all relationships will fail in the future, don't give up on yourself. You're a really sweet person,and so many here see that in you.
So Don't give up all together!
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Thanks eskie!!

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