[cheesepie1]

A few years back I was sectioned into a mental hospital by some family members and (ex?) friends. I didn't have a mental illness and maybe had some sort of 'mild' anxietal issues. But essentially the doctors and team were given a lot of misleading information. I don't really know why I was sectioned and I guess I may never know. I guess one consequence is I've found it more difficult to trust people. I've spoken to a counsellor and she seemed a nice enough person, but I decided to not pursue this avenue. As these things happen to people in life sometimes and these things may or may not be fair. But I didn't think just talking about it would make much of a difference to me. I am quite good at creative things, but I seem to find it very hard to make decisions. I've thought it may be useful to post on these forums in order to get redirected in the right way in life some way.

it seems to me the real question you seek is affirmation you are okay.

Being diagnosed with a mental illness can be scary and frutrating. The suggestion things might be wrong can very much anger us - and cause us to be angry at those around us we see as transgressing our relationships rather than supporting them. The way I was able to look at it was relief in the discovery I finally wasn't alone - that there was an entire community of people like me. Having mental illness need not mean you aren't okay.

I always point people in the direction of their family doctor who is not just a good person to talk to but can determine if the ball should get started rolling - which they can do for you. They can get you back into the mental healthcare system with a psychiatrist whom I believe can also set you up with a therapist ideal for you and your situation. They are also in a position to determine if the mental healthcare system is not what you need afterall.

When it comes specifically to decision making there are numerous reasons why. In my own case it is fear of disaster (Catastrophic Thinking), Discounting the Positive, and low self worth. I have had some success with CBT (Cognitive Behaviour Therapy).

Finally, I am glad you reached out. A very good welcome to you.

[cheesepie1]

>Being diagnosed with a mental illness can be scary and frutrating. The suggestion things might be wrong can very much anger us - and cause us to be angry at those around us we see as transgressing our relationships rather than supporting them. The way I was able to look at it was relief in the discovery I finally wasn't alone - that there was an entire community of people like me. Having mental illness need not mean you aren't okay.

Ok... for me at least, I didn't have one. Once I'd finally gotten to be seen by the doctor at the hospital, they concluded that I maybe some had minor anxietal problems. The information they had been given was false.

I just wondered if there may some people to talk to online to help me with my indecisiveness. Maybe I need company or companionship.

[eyesclosed]

Welcome cheesepie1 this is very strange. I have major depression with associated anxiety and panic attacks. It was under control but some of the side affects of the meds were bad. This was in 2002 and in 2015 the psychaitrist reduced my paxil from 40mg to 20mg. 3 weeks later I awoke to multiple brain zaps like 20 0r 30 like a pack of fire crackers.They reintroduced paxil back to 40mg. I haven't been the same and my ex to be thought it was a good time to leave. I'm the only sibling near my widowed mom who is in declining health. In june I became deaf from fluid behind my ears it's meneir's its been over year and have rained on my brother and sisters parade because I can barely take care of myself and have been unsupportive like snap out of it. Now I learned they have been talking about me the only problem I wasn't there. So they are going to to probably try and put me in the mental health hospital because I'm useless to them now my brother was swearing at me today because I talk about my illness to my mom who apparently is sick of it but when I was healthy she sure had a lot of projects for me.When I told her about the divorce my mom said well I hope you learned your lesson? I didn't understand this I was faithful cooked cleaned mowed the grass paid the bills I think they are mentaly ill.

[cheesepie1]

I wondered if it was worth seeing a therapist would help. I'm a honest person, quite lawyerly...

I am quite good at creative things, but I seem to find it very hard to make decisions.

[eskielover]

To start with, my whole life was spent around people I couldnt trust to make wise decisions & definitely didnt trust them to help me come up with eise decisions.

Two things have helped me. One was spending 2 years in a wonderful DBT group where wise mind thinking, & seeing the big picture was the focus between the other sections that helped me learn about myself & communicate with others.

The second thing was that I left the bad marriage that I couldnt trust to make or help me mske wise decisions. I moved to a place where I didnt know anything to start with but got involved in areas with very smart peopke I could trust. Now when I have difficult decisiobs I need to mske I always take counsel with them & talk through the options to see what they think. They have been awesome ingiving advice & ideas. My psychologist who was my DBT group leader is also anither person I will take my decision making needs to for ideas on my thoughts & other pissible wYs of looking for a solution.

Having wise people to talk to is critical because even using wise mind & seeing the big picture there is always something I miss. Having a logical mind already helped me. Being a computer design engineer, i had lots of problem solving on the job...but my H was also in thevsame career & anything that needed common sense at, he FAILED miserably.

It is a miracle that I trust anyone after hhe life I had but I always recognized wise people, just had none that existed in my life.

[eyesclosed]

I really believe a good counsler would help you. I have the same problems, getting ready to go somewhere is challenging even what to have for dinner can take a while.If there major decisions she was alwayss good at helping giving options and possible outcomes

[avlady]

I also have a hard time making decisions and i think alot of people do. not to change the subject, but i never heard of Catostrophic thinking but i know i have it too. the reason is because i've been in several accidents and mishaps.

"Catastrophic Thinking" is on the list of 'Problem Thinking' that is the foundation of Behavioral Therapies (CBT, DBT, etc). It is essentially when one takes little information and immediately jumps to the worst case scenario.

ex. My psychiatrist is concerned by the high calcium in my blood and is sending me to a specialist. OMFG! I I must have lithium toxicity. I will require kidney dialysis, hospitalization to go cold turkey from the lithium and surgery to remove a parathyroid. The scar will be 8in long across my neck. I might die. I will have to wear turtle necks or scarves forever.