Authority

If decisions of Authority Figures trigger feelings of hurt and/or learned helplessness, or even anger ( ) how do you "cope" with this in a "postive" way??

No idea, sorry . Will hugs help?

i fight authority but authority keeps on winning - John Cougar Mellencamp

it depends on the situation, if at work maybe talk to others and organize to fight it

if the authority figure owns the bats and balls and wont let you play for a while, i just in general resent it and if it gets annoying enough find a new ballpark to play in.

in other less rigid situations talk to the authority figure and try to come to some kind of understanding or at least communication.

Therapy to understand where it comes from and why you are perceiving it the way you are in the present.

I think for most of us there is fear there. Getting to the core of that fear helps you to understand what that's about and to you can see if it's still relevan or your reaction is based on an earlier event.

Just my thoughts.

<font color="#000088">In my experience, if it's the authority figure thats causing you the pain and hurt, than there's not much you can do but TRY to find out why. However certain one's, depending on who, won't tell you! So it may be a win situation for them, and a lose situation for you! If you challenge them, you risk getting in trouble, because they are the authority figures! Also meaning they should know better as well! Unfortunately, some of them don't know any better! And you end up getting the short end of the stick! I wish things were more fair and right with authority figures, but some take advantage of their positions and use it to their advantage. It's sad,but it's true! I'm sorry you ended up being one of the one's that were hurt!
I know how it feels, I'm starting to get a real feeling of it myself! I hear ya!

((((((((((Fuzzybear))))))))))

I'm here for ya,if you need anything! </font>

I think it depends on who the authority figure is. If it is my parents (parent) & I am a grown up.....I can now choose to follow their desicions or not....because as soon as I became a grown up....I became an equal. (I found later on in life that I not only became an equal, but I became the parent....now that's confusing....but true).

If it is the police who are pulling me over for speeding.....well, I have the anxiety attack.....see if they will be nice & give me a break....other wise, take the ticket & say....."sorry sir....it won't happen again".

As we grow older, it can be tough putting our roles as being under authority figures into perspective......we soon become authority figures ourselves & take on the responsibility....hopefully better than the authority figures we had to learn from.

Being respectful has always been a part of my life....but I remember watching a military based movie one time......the person said something like....I can almost get away with anything as long as I call him "sir". In otherwords, as long as we make them feel like they are getting their way with their decisions, we can really go off & do what we think is really right. I think that is the right we have earned in growing up & taking on our own responsibilities to do what we know is right for ourselves.

Had to think about this post for awhile before figuring out how I think about authority.
Debbie

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Therapy to understand where it comes from and why you are perceiving it the way you are in the present.

I think for most of us there is fear there. Getting to the core of that fear helps you to understand what that's about and to you can see if it's still relevan or your reaction is based on an earlier event.

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When you begin to understand, then you begin to see that the "authority/emperor" may have no clothes... and you can go from there. I can do this sometimes, but so far not consistently.

Good view there, thanks!! And so true.