could be a trigger "on my way home from work"

did not know weather to write this. to write it makes me scared agian. today on the way home from work I always take side street. I stopped at crosswalk to let a group of guys who are pickers cross the street. traffic was heavy on cross over street so i could not turn corner.sitting there waiting at stop sign one was asking question. i could not hear so i opened window a little. i think he asked if drug store was up the street.he was speaking broken english.i pointed up street and said yes.
there was 6 to 8 of them.1 of me. next thing i know they circled car and had doors open and were getting in. as i saw what they were doing i tryed to hit lock button.and being dumb i could not find it. i was stupid to let them cross, i was stupid to open window a little.
some of them got in and i just started screaming no no no no...................no one would stop and help me.....
they did get out of car, because i was yelling so load,and i think they thought surly someone would help me. plus i had started car in drive while they were getting in.almost ran one over.
they just laughed looking in car while walking away. i could not go home cause they were heading that way.i went to police gave report came home . i have never been so scared in my life.i live in pleasantvillie like. 1950s style.
i feel dumb and stupid and will never drive home that way again.
it took me along time to be me again. these guys knocked me back..........
i cryed when i came home......................i am so stupid

i am so sorry if this triggers anyone feel free to move it or remove it......just needed to write it

(((((((((((( MUFFY))))))))))) OMG hon.. I am so glad your OK!! I am sorry that you had to go thru this also. But you did the right thing in going right to the police to make the report out! Be ever so proud of yourself for doing that ok? Just take it easy on yourself. Any one of us could / would have done the same thing out of the kindness of our hearts. Hang in there hon. PM me if you need anything ok?

Hugz
Bethy

maybe he asked if you could give them a ride. I am sorry you had this happen. I would have done the same thing though.

(((Muffy)))

Glad you are okay...sorry this happened

(((((hugs)))) You are safe now. I'm sorry for the experience, I'm glad you weren't physically harmed.

omg sweetie..... i dont care who u r that would scare the poop out of anyone and NO NO NO u r not stupid who were u to know what would have happened ....Maybe the Police needs to put down the doughnut and fix the streets





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(((((((((((Muffy))))))))))))) a safe teddy bear hug.

So scary. I wish that hadn't happened to you. I'm so glad you are safe. I wish i could take that moment and roll it up then throw it away.

Sounds like they were just trying to scare you and the did! Good for you that you went to the police station.

Forgive me if I sound like a mother, but... it would be a good habit to get into to lock your doors the minute you get into your car. NEVER try answering questions of people that you don't understand, especially when you're stopped in traffic. NEVER roll your windows down for them, not even a crack! Just pretend you don't know what they are saying and move away as soon as possible.

YEEUUUCK!! The town I live in is crawling with pickers. They're a scary bunch!! But you know, no place is safe anymore; not really. It pays to be on your guard when away from home.

Hope you get over your scare soon and remember to ALWAYS lock your doors!

{{{{{{{MUFFSTER}}}}}}

im sooo sorry you had to go through that... and in awe of you for having the strength to go to police not alot of people do that... sometimes this is a wake up call for those lil things we forget to do.. <font color="purple"> </font> lock doors and windows. winter is upon us.. gets dark earlier.. so keep in mind..bright streets ..high traffic area..even if it takes a lil longer to get home.. better safe then sorry. dont let these as*holes get ya down, your tougher then those cowards.

xoxoxoo Vee

((((((muffy))))))) oh hunni, i know what a terrifying experience that is. i was sitting at a red light and a man was crossing in front of my car. then all of the sudden he was at my passenger door trying to get in. it scared the ever loving crap out of me. even hours later i still felt as if i were going to vomit i was so scared and upset. so sorry this happened. this was one time my paranoia paid off. i have a thing about checking the back seat before i get in and locking the doors as soon as i start the car. (watched too many scarey movies i guess) glad you are ok hun.

((((((((((muffy))))))))))
Good on you for going to the police, and I'm sorry you had such a terrifying experience. It is in no way your fault that this happened ok!!!
Take care of yourself hun

oh my god sorry this happened to you ((((((((((((((muffy)))))))))))))
plz stay away from the back streets, and lock doors when you get into your car
well done on going to police and you are not dumb

((((((((((((((( muffy )))))))))))))))

It was the same streets I have taken every night home. for a year now. i forgot it was firday night, the night they bring them into town to shop.i forgot.....my cell phone...it was not my car as i let my daughter take mine to college,,,,it was one that was my father inlaws...i thought all cars you hit one button and the locks went on. i hit button that opened the passanger side window to in the mist of mistakes i made.
its such a small town, i never dreamed this would happen.........i always trust ppl ............thats why i said i ws stupid..you are all right....never open window,,never talk to them...what was i thinking.......always lock car...
at the time all as i could think of was that show from designing women where they teach you to yell no no....thats all i could do....besides put it in drive.....
I was not brave to go to police........the guys started heading up street where my house was ,,,,,,,,,,they would have known where i lived........first thing police man asked me was ..........you did not go home first did you.........as we are so small the police know where you live,
when i got home my husband thought i was joking.......till i started crying................now i am afraid to drive to work and home.....and i run a store in town........
i am sorry to go on about his just really showed me how truting i am. and dumb........i always tell my daughter to lock her doors and not talk to ppl what was i thinking.

thank you for all your kind words, thank you for hugs ty for listening........i will lock the doors , and drive the main street from now on,,,,................this just was a nightmare for me........one that thank god i am ok and here to post..........cause when i think of what coulda happened....well ................

(((((((muffy)))))))

I only just read this. I am so so sorry this happened to you. You are not stupid, not at all, you did the right thing going to the police. sending you a big comforting hug sweetie, Hope you are alright I know I would have panicked, you did good baby,

Jin xoxoxxoxoxox

((( muffy ))) I'm sorry this happened to you, and I'm glad you are ok.

(((((((((( Muffy ))))))))))

I'm glad you are ok

((((((((((((((((muffy)))))))))))))))))

glad you are ok, even thou im guessing you are still shaking..........
you are NOT stupid.......... when we get into our car , we dont lock the doors , ... we drive around with the windows down, and music playing.....even thou a woman was car jacked not far from where we live .... its just one of those things , that we think will never happen to us,.
im again so very glad you are safe..

dec x0x

What a terrifying experience
It's amazing how ordinary everyday things change into something so frightening in a blink of an eye. I'm so glad you were not hurt. That was definitely a "scared to death" experience.



take care of yourself

oh muffy i'm so sorry to hear what happened on your ride home.....you must have been so scared..i know i would of been....i hope your feeling better now...tc my friend

((MUFFY)). i came into this thread that i usually do not come by. i am so happy that u r safe!! u did the right thing by not going home right away and filing a report. please don't ever take the route again!!

(((((((((((((( fluffymuffy ))))))))))))))))))

Thank goodness you are safe hon. I'm so sorry this happened to you. Please don't think yourself as stupid....we all try to be kind to one another and thats what you were doing. There is nothing wrong with that. Unfortunately it was misunderstood. You can look at it as a lesson learned....thats all it was hon.

Safe and Gentle Hugs
sabby

ty everyone. My husband "known as tiger here" went to police , He was told they put to much money into the system here so nothing really would be done. Which is like gezzzzzzzzzz
SO we are telling everyone to lock thier doors when driving.
Yes i now know where the lock is for all doors.
No i do not drive that way home anymore.
Nor do i even make eye contact now with anyone while at red light.

I have one last thing to write. Maybe it has something to do with this or not. but has to do with trust.
WHen I came to pc my marrage had issues. Big issues.
I on one hand am very trusting on other hand am not.
My husband and I have worked things out. I saw it the other day with car issue how far it has come.

please my only advise i can give is be careful with internet things are not always as they seem. I knew that lesson before but forgot. TYmber and Tiger ty for showing me that.
Its kinda like keeping your door locked...........somedays i am so stupid....

(((((tymber and tiger ty)))))))))))))

you are not stupid you are too trusting ppl take advantage of kind ppl, thats why you dont see kind ppl so much out there in irl antmore,

i am always worried about my eldest who doesnt see danger in anybody, for instance last evening on the way home from a walk she was just aproaching where we live and a car stopped to ask her where the pub was she laughed at the man and told him to look out of his window coz its opposite us,
i saw danger when she told me but she didnt i told her shes not to help anybody how to get anywhere, she hasnt got to be rude just appoligise and walk away

Muffy,

I think this situation is very important for you to understand that you are not stupid....nothing you did was stupid. It sounds to me like you just let down your guard & were in an unfamiliar situation (not your own car). It wasn't that you didn't know to keep your doors locked or not open your car windows or talk to anyone you didn't know. You were in a different car that you weren't used to & didn't know where the automatic locks or window buttons were.....there isn't anything stupid about that....when something out of the blue caught you unaware.

When we haven't had to be on our guard for anything for a long time or even think about being in an unsafe situation, we just aren't quite prepared to do all the right things at the right time....remember that has nothing to do with being stupid.

I think you were very SMART:....started screaming.....started driving away immediately....went directly to the police station instead of going home (so they couldn't find out where you live)....those were all the right things to do given the situation & there is nothing stupid about that......very very wise.

I am sure that if you had been in your own car that you knew very well, this wouldn't have happened the way it did.

It's sad to say, but sometimes, it's good when things happen (without a bad outcome) to make us realize that we do have to be aware of what is going on around us....things we start taking for granted when we don't personally have scarry experiences. The changes you have made because of this experience will protect you even more in the future & you will be more prepared if something else happens. You will also have the confidence knowing that what you did this time was the right thing & will also know what to tell others who might get into similar experiences.

Yes, you are very lucky that nothing bad happened......but you were enough in control that you did the right thing given the situation you were in.

Nothing stupid about what you did.....I think you are a good example of what to do in a situation like that. I hope you can calm down....I know the fear that causes (been there before also with someone who followed me for 40 miles in my car). It takes a long time for the anxiety to calm down.

Take care of yourself & be kind....you really did the right things,
Debbie