Can I cry on your shoulder?

A couple of days ago, an aquaintance committed suicide. She left behind four children. I volunteer in a local "drop in center" and got to know this woman. I didn't realize how much this would affect me. I feel terrible. I know better, but somehow cant help the fact that I "think I could have helped her". I think I can "save the world" Of course this isn't true. I cant stop seeing her face. We are having a debriefing at work RE: this.
I feel guilty that I didn't see the signs. She must have felt so alone. How can I get her out of my head???????????
I cant believe I'm just thinking of me in this situation. What about the kids and her friends and family? I need a little advice.

"you only have one chance to make a first impression"

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Willoughby}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} I'm sorry you have to go through this. It can't be at all easy. Maybe if you try to do something for her kids, it will help you feel better. There's nothing like service to help you forget about your self.

Hang in there. It will get better.





<font color=blue>"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt" --Shakespeare</font color=blue>

((((Willoughby))))))
I am so sorry that you are feeling this loss. While I agree that activity is good I also think that time will heal all wounds. I know that it does not help but I hope your pain will be eased soon.

Jessica

<font color=blue> You are in this snowglobe. It is encovered in glass and secure. But one day someone comes and shakes the globe and the pieces go flying everywhere. Now they will eventually settle but they won't be the way they were before and they can never be that way again. </font color=blue>

The fact that your job is having a debrieffing is an inidcation that probably some other people are feeling like you too.
It's OK to feel the way you do. Let your grief run its course.

I'm sorry you are going through this.

gab

(((((((Willoughby))))))
So Sorry you are going through this. Having been through this myself, I felt alot of what you are feeling. I would suggest to allow yorself to grieve and get all the support you can, especially from those you are the most close to and to talk about it. Only time can heal the pain. Once again I am sorry for what you are going through.- Chris

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~KRIS~

If you think you have totally gave up, you haven't, because you are here!

Thank you guys!!! The debriefing is tomorrow afternoon. It's not that I was her "best friend" or anything. It's just that I have this feeling of "I could have helped her" Anyways. Time does make things more bearable. Thanks again.

"you only have one chance to make a first impression"