Turned boss in today for sexual harrassment

Now I don't know what's gonna happen. I didn't put a trigger on here, because I won't go into details.

I hate drama! Why does this kinda crap have to happen. I haven't slept in two nights and tonight's not looking much better.

I just couldn't put up with it any longer. It wasn't even subtle.

Anyone else go through this?
Best,
Okie

Oh Okie, I'm sorry sweetie

Thanks Alex! I'm sorry you're so hot right now!

How long will you be in NZ?
Okie

Yes ((((((((((((((( okie )))))))))))))))))

I've been there.

You might want to contact an atty. just for some good advice at this point, and as a witness.

I would start a timeline and fill it in as you remember incidents. Put names of those who might have heard, etc.

I'm so sorry you've had to experience this. When it happened to me, it was an attorney holding a high position.

KD

Hi okie. At one job i had, a client pushed himself on me and i physically defended myself. But i ended up getting fired for that.

I hope your company is nothing like the one i worked for. Good Luck and i'm glad you stood up for yourself. And i hope you are able to get some rest tonite.

hugs

Do you have documentation? Dates, times, witnesses?
Did you tell anyone else about it and it was not stopped?
Did you tell him to stop and it was not?
Did you go to his boss and report it?

The most important thing is did anyone else know and has he ever had any accusers before?

If not it's your word against his and that puts him in the drivers seat.

Yes to all your questions.
Okie

Good, now go nail his ***!

I turned in a coworker for sexual harrassment.

I had to go to the HR department tell my side of the story and then they got other people that had witnessed it story and he ended up getting fired.

Good for taking a stand for yourself...you deserve it!!!

Jbug

do you need me to drive up there and open a (patented) can of "LMo Whoop *****" on him?

I don't feel vengeful at all. Do you think he will be fired?

I'm most worried about a working relationship with him from now on. I have been reassured that retaliation won't be tolerated, but we all know how that can go.

Do you really think he'll get fired???

Okie

How long has it gone on? Did he have others he did this to?

Yep, He could get fired, if not at least transfered out of the department, demoted and slapped with disciplanry action in his HR file.

The man is in a bad position and he deserves to be.

Thanks 50guy for your support. He has done this to four other women prior to my ever working there. He was counseled again on the same matter only 5 months ago unbeknownst to me.

I wonder if they will just talk to him again, or if they really will fire him?
Okie

they might ask you what you are hoping for in terms of a resolution...

Counseled 5 months ago! If he worked for me he would be fired. I'd be the one to show him the door with much pleasure.

You need to be insistant that they terminate him. How many more women have to be subject to this cad?
If they don't fire him, I'd get a lawyer and sue for hostile work place.

The HR lady told me to do that very thing if I'm not satisfied with how they handle it. She seemed confident that the company would not tolerate his behavior.

Now that I recall the conversation, it does seem plausible that he will be fired. I hate to think I caused that to happen to someone else...
Okie

okie, you did the right thing in reporting his behavior.

if he gets fired, it will be his doing--because of his own behavior, as simple as that.

Whoa, there okie, you didn't do anything, he did with his harrassment. He has done it before and he would do it again. If they keep him on he will do it again. The next woman could go after the company and then how nmany jobs would be lost.?

Don't feel bad for this creep, he did it to himself. You didn't ask him to harrass you and neither did the other women.

I have no sympathy for him and neither should you.

Would you like me to kick his ***? It would be my pleasure cause I can't stand guys like him. There are plenty of women out there to flirt with. Lots of tramps on the street walking that don't mind his kind of talk so, don't even blame yourself for his actions.

Hey 50guy!
Yes, if you're willing to kick his *** for me, I'd be most appreciative! It feels very nice that you are sticking up for me like that.

You sound like a pretty nice guy!
Thanks,
Okie

Well, it would be my pleasure.

Yep, that's me...defender of women ,children and the defenseless.

Believe me, if I was there I would show him the door so fast he wouldn't be able to open it 'cause I'd throw him right through it. Guys like him %#@&#! me off. There are so many women out there looking for a good man and then they run into this creep. He isn't a man at all just a freak of nature.

Now, don't get me started or I'll tell you how I really feel. {:>)

1) You did the right thing!
2) HE caused whatever happens to him by his actions.

3) 50guy Tell us how you REALLY feel!

Don't feel bad... that's how they want you to feel... don't give him the power.

In answer to your question, Yes...long before we had any right to say anything... I lost 5 jobs in a very short row one year...all for saying NO. THEN my then grandmother in law talked to everyone in the room (like I wasn't there) What's wrong with her? What is she doing that she loses all those jobs" Takes all kinds in the world, eh?

Sorry you had to deal with something like this. You would think in this day and age that a person would have more common-sense than to do this type of thing. It gives us guys a real bad name. I hope this guy gets everything he has coming to him.

All my best,
Greg

Okie,

This sucks, the stress of this will eat you alive if you let it. What happens to him will depend entirely on the company, if he's already been warned about this then he should be terminated....in a perfect world.

In my case the man in question was not terminated even though there were 10 witnesses that came forward and complained to the HRD. He also have a complaint prior to mine for which he was reprimanded. I transferred out of the department. He followed me. Each time he got away with it, it got worse, and he was bolder and bolder. Finally they had to do something.

Kimmy gave very good advice. Documentation, documentation, documentation. A little notebook that says what happened, where, when and who was around, whether they're willing to get involved or not.

Good luck to you. You're doing the right thing.

He is going to get a week of without pay. That's it.

Okie