Hope this helps my friends

Things you do not see behind the screen.
Just a story for you of my day yesterday. To hope for all of us to cope with the uneasiness here at PC. Just a thought. Cause with all things this to shall pass....and sometimes we do not see what is really going on with ppl.

Well it started the night before. I told my son he could do something. That at the time seemed ok. But in truth was not. I made a mistake. A huge one for me. I forgot he has OCD and will do what ever he is doing to the top. "meaning do his best" Plus he is alittle like Eddy Haskel off of Leave it to Beaver LOLOLLOL

Any how , when we found out how far he had taken this project"we will call it" It had to be removed from house and well thrown away. So as you can imagine when he came home he was really mad. But way madder than we thought. To the point of not being able to help him understand. My husband was so worried he came to work and had me come home. As he was worried son would do self harm.

After a hour of trying to talk to him. Which was very hard . As all he could really say was he was Angy and frustrated beyond what he could understand. So i told him to be upset with me because it was my fault and it was. With that things got alittle better.
Today at 5;30 am my phone started ringing. My son leaves at 5 after 6 am for school its a hour and half drive. The bus driver said she needed to pick him up at 5;50 today because yesterday the drive took a hour longer due to snow. So the kids were late. With that making the bus drive 2 and half hours long.
What I did not see yesterday was my son was so fustrated by bus drive , he had lost it by the time he came home. He could not pin point all off his anger.

Hope somehow this long winded story helps............as we are all on the other side of the screen and things are going on all the time in ppls lifes that can be very stressfull and sometimes you just snap...........hope this helps
As you are all great ppl and I would like everyone happy LOL

Oh, yes, muffy. We read words here...which is great, but there are things we can't see...the pain/tears in eyes, the smile that tells us something really is a joke or said with care, the desperation, so much...

Online communication can be difficult and confusing. We take the words literally because that's all we have, right? Well, that's true in part. It's all we have from the other person, but while we're reading we're also interpreting with the feelings from inside ourselves...our own anger, pain, confusion, frustration, fear, etc.

For instance, I don't know how many times someone has said something kind to me and I had to wait a long time to respond because at the time I was feeling really bad and was thinking they can't be sincere because that can't be true.

I guess what I'm saying is not only are we just able to read the literal words off the screen, we're also taking in the reflection from the screen...the reflection of us.

Then we also have the times that people are going through really difficult times and they might be short, snap, be demanding. At those times we need to remember their behavior as a whole and then we can know that they're having it rough or something. We need to pull on fact when things are confusing...if we have the fact, of course.

Take the holidays coming...so many are so much more stressed, depressed, in grief, harried.

Through this holiday season, let's be extra giving of others...others who suffer, or try to maintain, just as we do.

You all mean the world to me. You truly do. I know that I could post, PM, go into chat and I'd have support RIGHT NOW. There are very few places or people in the world that offer that consistently and when that source of support is wavering, I have to know that maybe it's my time to go the extra mile even in my own need.

It's a very difficult time of year...but also a time for pure graciousness to shine. Let's have PC ALIGHT 24/7.

Love and respect,

KD

sometimes i have to read things 3 to 4 times here
ty Kimmy

Great, personal story, muffy; I'm sure lots of people can identify with it.