Obsessed with someone from my past

Hello,

I was obsessed with someone back in the early 2000s, for about 6 months, and then around 10 years ago I became obsessed with them again.

They are social, reasonably successful, attractive, and so forth. I probably think about them every day. In my mind at least they are a special person, although in reality there are people who are smarter, more successful, etc.

I probably spoke maybe five words to her, if that, when she was in my class at high school. Haven't seen her for 15 years.

So how do you get over someone who you obsess over? I thought about contacting her on Facebook but I think this would be a bad move, and one that I'll never be able to undo.

What are your suggestions?

So Sorry you're going through this! Please Do not give up! i agree with you that contacting them on facebook may be a bad idea. i am not sure if there's much else you can do other than to completely ignore this person as harsh as it sounds. Block her, at least temporarely, from your social media so that you don't have to see her feed and ask mutual friends or people you know to simply not bring it up if is possible. Hugs. i Hope things will improve really soon for everyone. Please do update us if possible if you want to. Love. Stay Safe. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Pavlov's Cat, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!

She is not one of my Facebook friends, but I am able to look her up on Facebook and I do this from time to time. Also I do google her a bit.

If there is a way to block her profile so that I can't even search for it, then that would be good.

It sounds to me like you don't really know her as a person but are idealizing her. Can you spend more time with people you do know in real life? Or is the problem that you don't have anyone close to you?

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Originally Posted by Pavlov's Cat Hello, I was obsessed with someone back in the early 2000s, for about 6 months, and then around 10 years ago I became obsessed with them again. They are social, reasonably successful, attractive, and so forth. I probably think about them every day. In my mind at least they are a special person, although in reality there are people who are smarter, more successful, etc. I probably spoke maybe five words to her, if that, when she was in my class at high school. Haven't seen her for 15 years. So how do you get over someone who you obsess over? I thought about contacting her on Facebook but I think this would be a bad move, and one that I'll never be able to undo. What are your suggestions?

Therapy could help.

I won't clutter your thread with my story(long) but after much searching I've decided that I am afflicted with Limerence(I can't post link yet), which is somewhat like your situation. I would recommend avoiding her on social media, as such "contact" will feed your obsession & related fantasy. I'm speaking from my own experience, not trying to tag yours as such.