Building a Whole New Life

Huh, in a way, the fact that nothing odd or weird happens seem to be odd and weird. But in a good way.

Thanks, @SquarePegGuy, and forgive me, but what do you mean? You don't think it's odd that all 3 of them ignore my messages at different times?

Well, I mean if weird things tend to happen regularly, than that becomes normal. And if there's a stretch of time that something weird doesn't happen, that would not be normal and hence weird.

I wasn't implying anything about your work situation. I took the "weirdness hiatus" statement flippantly out of context. I hope I haven't upset you!

Well, I mean if weird things tend to happen regularly, than that becomes normal. And if there's a stretch of time that something weird doesn't happen, that would not be normal and hence weird. I'm not entirely sure what you were writing about. I took the "weirdness hiatus" statement out of context. I hope I haven't upset you!

NO worries! You haven't upset me at all. I was curious about what you meant so thanks for clarifying. I do get what you mean. This crap at work is weird and not normal - it's out of the ordinary.

I had a great long weekend with my new guy. We did a lot of fun things and stayed active. We went to see two different bands play Fri and Sat nights, we took walks, made 2 meals together, and went boating. He has called me his girlfriend to his friends, and I am beginning to think of him as my boyfriend. It's been almost 2 months of dating. We've traveled a lot during the last 2 months and we've been having all kinds of fun.

He has goofed up a couple of times, however.

Sunday night while under the influence he told me to "shut up" when he was being silly and goofy. I reacted strongly and told him that's how my ex husband used to speak to me. I became very serious and sobered up right away. It killed the jovial mood for me, and I told him I wanted to go to bed.

In the morning we talked about it, and he was mature about it and very receptive to my point of view, even though he did claim he was joking around. I didn't like it, and that's what mattered most. He said he won't use that phrase with me ever again. I mentioned the first time he messed up, telling him it was also disrespectful. I told him that I will walk away if it continues to happen.

So I am on guard and a bit thrown off. His father WAS severely abusive, and it makes me worry he may be abusive too, although he has not shown other signs of this behavior. Two instances of disrespect DO make me on guard and concerned.

I don't know what to think or do except to ride it out and see if it continues to occur?

I noticed that new guy also has a tendency to "not hear" me sometimes when I am speaking to him. Either he is dismissing me, or he genuinely is too focused on something and tunes me out.

I am starting to become nervous. There have been 2 instances where I have felt disrespected by him; once in public and once at home, in addition to sometimes tuning me out and not responding to me when I am speaking to him. I am supposed to travel with him out of state in two weeks to meet a whole group of his friends and am on edge about it and uncertain. I may tell him now that I am uncertain about it and want to see how the next two weeks go before committing.

If I have found yet another abuser I am going to flip the F out.

Sure are jumping the gun fast. Are you looking for every flaw he has? Maybe put yourself in the driver seat? Take a long break from him, see what happens.
Good thing happen for those who wait.
Just from the posts, eager to get to know him intimately, but using old scars not to trust him.

My goodness, aren’t you quick to blame me when I’m the one being disrespected? Your comments are totally disrespectful towards me. If you can’t respect my stance please don’t comment on my thread. Thank you.

Im sorry stating your actions isnt blame, its called truth.
Now if you didnt get into such a huff you would of finished reading.
And no you post these truths here, and the hell if I will ignore what you say.
Dont want advise, I suggest you pay attention of what you post?