feeling inadequate....

ok, this'll prob get moved for being in the wrong place but whatever.

the whole point of this site to me is not just to receive support but also to give support. that just makes me feel like a total waste of space coz i'm the most crap advice giver on the planet. like i've just read a thread by someone going thru something i'm going thru too...and i don't have the SLIGHTEST clue what to say to this person. why am i SO useless ! ! !

((((kj))) You are not useless, you are a very helpful person.

No beating yourself up!

(((((((((( Kalamity Jane ))))))))) You are very supportive here! I know what it is like in wanting to be supportive everywhere but we all need support too. Give yourself a pat on the back for everything that you do here, and you do a lot, right?

Much love to you.

Kalamity Jane,

Sometimes we have more to give than at other times. Let us fill your bucket. When it is full, you will be able to support others. In the meantime, sit back and receive.

EJ

thank you ((gimmiece))

((((Pegasus)))) you understand so well

((((EJ)))) thank you, that's a sweet way to put it

I appreciate hugs from everyone!

Hun - even if you don't know how to help someone, sometimes it is a HUGE help just to know that there is someone else out there struggling thru the same crap we are.

If you knew how to fix you - you'd fix you. Duh! But sometimes we just need a little assurance that someone else feels the same way we do about something...and we're not alone.

You're not useless!! Just that cute little teddy bear with the hearts is enough to make some people smile!

((((Sky))))

((((((((Razzleberry)))))))) guess i never thought of it that way before coz i'm always so hard on myself while trying to smother other ppl in love. and...ermmm...didn't think ppl actually paid attention to things like the little teddy

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{K_J, Sweety}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Didn't I tell you your words had been a blessing to me... twice? If that isn't support, I don't know what is.

Stop doing what I do, do as I say. No, really. Stop being so hard on yourself. You never know when you've been of help to someone else just saying "I understand."

Your teddy bear with hearts always makes me smile. Sometimes saying something as simple as I read and I care, can make another person feel validated and heard. You're definitely a caring person and most definitely not useless.

--splitimage

((((SeptemberMorn))))) ty you always bring a smile to my face

((((splitimage)))) you're the second person to mention the teddy bear....i'm a goth lol thank you, you're words mean a lot

Dorrie, if we all had answers to all our problems we wouldn't be here, STOP beating yourself up,
Angie

guess that's me told huh?

((((((((Angie))))))))

I love your teddy bear too, spreading hearts to everyone! And I agree with Angie, stop beating yourself up You're very supportive! We love you here ((((((((((( kj )))))))))))))

awwww....((((((((Fuzzy)))))))) you're always very supportive too and i love you to pieces

There are many ways to be supportive.

You can just say "I know what you are going through".

You can just be present for the person.

You can offer a hug.

You can tell them you don't have a solution but, that you love them.

You can send them in the direction they need to go for help.

Everyone of us can do these needful things.
You are valuable to everyone.

thanks Guy...i just expect too much from myself sometimes...but thanks for spelling it out for me, i know i can do all those things.

take care, you are valuable to everyone too.

I really appreciate you KJ, I enjoy reading your posts and find your coments inciteful and engaging, please do not feel useless, you are most certainly not that. I think a lot of you as a person and I am sure many others here echo my sentiments

take care and I hope your day and feelings improve

(((KJ)))

TJ

Thank you Tim. Your words mean a lot. Being relatively new to this site has been a big learning curve for me and the hardest thing has been learning that I do have worth.

Thank you for taking the time to respond.

You take care also.

kj

(((((((Klamity_Jane)))))))))))) don't be so hard on yourself...you give lots more advice than I do...just remember you need support too sometimes!!!