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Apr 19, 2008, 12:01 PM
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I might be posting more and hope I'm not irritating. Two of my good online friends have "disappeared". I know by now that online people "come and go".. and sometimes go completely but still its hard not to take it personally sometimes, for me anyway.
 Sorry about the whine. (growlers are also welcome here) This isn't about anyone here.
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Apr 19, 2008, 12:03 PM
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(((((((((((( Fuzzy )))))))))))) grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.....    
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#3
Apr 19, 2008, 12:04 PM
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You are never irritating. I'm sorry you have been hurt like this. Always here for you. (((((((((( Fuzzybear )))))))))))
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Apr 19, 2008, 12:14 PM
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(((((((((((((fuzzybear)))))))))))))
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#5
Apr 19, 2008, 01:13 PM
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((((((furry-paws)))))) not your fault....people can have their own issues that make it hard for them to be good to others. (I'm feeling that way myself these days.
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#6
Apr 19, 2008, 01:21 PM
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You're not irritating, Fuzzy. You're a gentle, caring person.
I understand how you're feeling. I had typed out a story about it, but then it sounded like I was making it about me, whereas I just wanted to show you that I can appreciate how you're feeling. (be thankful I deleted the story ... it wasn't at all interesting)  You won't mind my pointing out that you're a liar: apologising for "whining' when you're not whining, will you?  Seriously though ... I hope you get to speak with your friends soon, so that you can put your mind at ease as to why they haven't been in touch. Take care fuzzybear.. *leaves a pot of fresh honey*
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#7
Apr 19, 2008, 02:09 PM
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(((((Fuzzy)))))))
I think the nature of an online community is sort of fluid. And that is hard for people like us who have a hard time trusting to begin with. I have noticed a lot of changes around here lately as well. Take gentle care.
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Apr 19, 2008, 02:09 PM
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Hey (((((((((((((Fuzzy)))))))))))))) life sometimes sneaks up on people and then they're not online as much. Or the internet doesnt hold the same appeal to them anymore.
You are not irritating.
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Apr 19, 2008, 02:22 PM
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Fuzzy,
I know how it is to loose your very bestest people who mean the world to you...it just isn't the same anymore. I was an only child, to the only people I had were my neighbors & there were 2 that were especially close. Their Dad got a huge moveup in his career & they were transferred to Northern California....not only were they moving away, but they were moving way up in the life structure.....leaving us who in my mind, had nothing to offer the world....stuck in our little dumpy neighborhood that had nothing to offer us. It is always hard for the one being left because the only change is the vacant space they left & a very empty heart. Mind you, we did not loose touch totally & to this day, we are still in contact at occasion that tug at the heart.....but the initial loss is tough....life does go on & others come in & out along the way....the there are some that will always leave an empty spot & it's something we end up accepting & living with....keeping in our heart the memories of the good times we shared. I hope you will be here more so that you can fill your time with other good thoughts & people & keep the good times you had with them as just that. Hugz, Debbie
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#10
Apr 19, 2008, 05:47 PM
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(((((((((((((((fuzzy)))))))))))))
never the irritating bear,just a kind friendly generous bear
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Apr 19, 2008, 06:20 PM
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If you do feel like you're taking it personally, gently remind yourself of the other reasons they may have left. It is hard to overcome long held beliefs, so be gentle and kind to yourself in the process.
Losing a friend (whether on line or face to face) involves a loss and there is bound to be some sadness and grief involved. Even if it hurts it is important to accept those feelings and find helpful ways to cope with them. It is nice you can reach out to the community to seek a little warmth. I think that is a good step forward
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#12
Apr 19, 2008, 11:45 PM
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((((((( Fuzzy )))))))) I'm glad you will be posting more. I hope it helps. Sorry about your friends. The only reason I haven't disappeared, quite, is because of my friends.
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Apr 20, 2008, 12:16 AM
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Apr 20, 2008, 01:08 AM
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fuzzy
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Apr 20, 2008, 02:40 PM
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(((FUZZY))). I hope things get better for you soon. Take care. Soidhonia
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Apr 22, 2008, 11:03 AM
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Hope you're feeling a bit better today, Fuzzy.
(edited to add the hug  )
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Apr 22, 2008, 02:04 PM
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Thank you all for your kindness
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Apr 22, 2008, 03:39 PM
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I can understand how it is. MY friends DID return You see, people are busy. Those online contacts are not something you can rely on...and i sugues you to convince yourself that those friends don`t mean the world for you becasue people who are far aways and only online...can be really...well it`s just not somehting you can complitely trust and know such as people you meet with
I just say it from my own personal experience.... I had it hard and was lonely adn missarabel but beleive me, you can make new friends and they can return! I have a friend ..online..who lives in a different country. He doesn`t talke to me a few weeks or a month or so and them sends an email. He is very busy at work One we had a lot of time to chat and we would talk every day online. Noe it`s not that way and i exept it. Thant`t what i can tell you from me online experience 
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Apr 22, 2008, 03:44 PM
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Ho and also what i did after i felt that internet relationships mean too much i just STOPED GETTING ONLINE FOR A WEEK and then came to see that my life was full of joy and interest without this. Internet is more for fun. I too sometimes am lonely and looking for support here and there. But i feel that when it becomes a habnit..it`s not a good one!
Chill out my friend
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Apr 22, 2008, 03:56 PM
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Thanks lady, you're probably right
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Apr 22, 2008, 04:03 PM
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((((((((((fuzzy)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
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Apr 22, 2008, 04:04 PM
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wow, fuzzy, look at all the friends you have. i send you hugs too. xxxxxxxoooooooopj56
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Apr 22, 2008, 04:05 PM
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aww thanks sweet ((((((((((((( muffy ))))))))))))))
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Apr 22, 2008, 04:07 PM
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(((((((((((((( pj ))))))))))))))
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Apr 22, 2008, 08:42 PM
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(((fuzzybear))))
You are never irritating!! It'll be okay. I'm here for you!!
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