How much is too much info here?

POSSIBLE TRIGGERS HERE!!!!!


So, I have pondered this question many times. How much info is too much when one is talking about SA or physical abuse? I mean, there are many things I would like to talk about or questions I would like to ask, but am always too afraid to push the limit, so to speak. Is there a limit on detail?

I just really don't want to offend or trigger anyone.

Heck, maybe this is stuff just meant for our own blogs???

IDK, Just wondering.

Thanks,
BJ

Hi Only ...down near the bottom is an area on SA ...and I think one on SH ....as long as you post in there with the trigger icon you can say it all in detail...and sometimes it feels good to get those details out ...say it outloud so to speak..Some people will do many trigger icons and then a caution within their thread....Good luck you are safe and free down there...Not that THIS thread is a trigger but I put the trigger icon on so you could see what it looks like...When I was newer I thought it was the red cross one

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POSSIBLE TRIGGERS HERE!!!!!


So, I have pondered this question many times. How much info is too much when one is talking about SA or physical abuse? I mean, there are many things I would like to talk about or questions I would like to ask, but am always too afraid to push the limit, so to speak. Is there a limit on detail?

I just really don't want to offend or trigger anyone.

Heck, maybe this is stuff just meant for our own blogs???

IDK, Just wondering.

Thanks,
BJ

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Thanks. I knew which one was trigger, but I wasn't sure how far I could go into detail.
It helps knowing about what I can do now. There are so many things I want to get out and feel safe doing here, now that I have so many friends.

Thanks again!

BJ

I think that's a great question, onlymedid.

I feel like that is some of why we have separate forums for things; so people who are familiar with, interested in, or comfortable dealing with/talking about those topics have a place to discuss them.

I think it is good to get the poison out of our systems about past abuse; the past can't hurt us now, it is in the past. But it is against the posting guidelines to talk in detail about current abuse, mostly because one should be getting immediate help, medical or whatever, not talking here on the forums about it. And current graphics would be very triggering.

Often reading other peoples' histories can help us not feel as alone with our own struggles. I think one can find lots of histories (with triggers if they are very detailed) in the appropriate forums.

If you go down to the sa area and go pages back..I think I had a thread in there....and a few people that I got close too...you can read HOW detailed they are...some may say by Anonyous cause one or two people left ...but ummmmm VERY detailed posts ....more so by them than me.....but go for it..I can feel your need to get this out (((ONLY)))

Thanks for the support! I really appreciate it. I think I will look at previous posts to get a better idea.

I just really want to be careful is all, cuz I do care about everyone here.

BJ

You're very welcome I was just there and went back like 70 pages looked at a few posts..I can't say who posted them and umm you can't BE anymore graphic...They made sure othres were safe with the icon and even when you opened it..they had huge letters saying ...things like..THIS IS VERY VERY TRIGGERING AND GRAPHIC ..S*& TALK IS IN HERE DO NOT READ IF YOU ARENT IN A SAFE PLACE...etc...Wishing you will Only

onlymedid >>> I consider you a trust and friend peep here in this cyberland ,,,

And the one thing that has often jumped out at me was the fact that some get their jollies reading the detail stuff.

When I first joined here I had a peep wanting to describe some things in detail and I was like " Please do not use graphic words " They were attempting to describe a forced oral thing.
And that is / was a major trig for me at that time for I prevented myself from acknowledging ...

But in my time here ,, I have also felt footsteps of sickos that would maybe find a se.xual gratification in reading serious detail .

One way I found around it was take a few close and trusted Friends here and make a password room and have a schedule for the topic and Then the prying or perv eyes never get there ,,,,,,,,,,,,

OH WOW!! I didn't even think about that!! Shoot, I would hate to give pervs ammo! Hmmmm...I didn't know you can make a passworded room?! Hmm..I will seriously have to think about this!

I would hate to trigger you or anyone else, that is why if I did write anything there would be PLENTY of trigger warnings!!!

Thanks I_WMD!!! and

BJ

Here's how to make password room onlymedid.

1.]Go into a public chat room >>. Lobby ,, 21 room ,, ect .

2 .] At top of chat screen ,, click Rooms .

3 .] At bottom ,, click create room .

4 .] In create new room box Put name in box.

5 .] Topic ,,, I use /////////// . >> non - discript .

6 .] Click little box that says " Password protected ".

7 .] Click Password Box and type in your agreed upon password . ( usually you have pm'ed that in mail here to those you trust or pm in chat room to those that may want to come ,,, and you trust .)

8 .] Click OK ...>>> and viola'... you have protected room .

COOL!!! Thanks. I think I might have to try that one day. Not tonight cuz I am far too sleepy, but soon!

Have I told you lately....



BJ

And onlymedid >>.... ,,,>>,,, I LOVE Your Ribbon Avy !!!!