[kimmydawn]

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I want to thank everyone here for their support, care, concern and suggestions. You have helped me through one of the most difficult times in my adult life. Alot of you know that I've been trying to raise my 24 mo. old nephew. This came about suddenly 7 wks ago. Me and my family were his only hope to stay away from CPS and "the system". We'd always kept a close eye on the situation from the time he was born, keeping him every weekend. His parents have severe emotional problems. They couldn't even take care of themselves. They did the best the could (with alot of help and constant watching over). However, when the split up, they could do it no more. They've both spiralled downhill...quickly. The baby immediately came to us. My mother helped as much as she could.

I have DID and have been doing well...back to working full time and having much less dissociation, but still very high maintenance to do well. I'm 42 and my children are grown for the most part. They're good kids and are doing well in life. When little man came to live with us, I tried to maintain everything, I really did. However, things were falling apart around me really quickly. I couldn't maintain the pace of working full time, caring for family, caring for a new toddler and doing things I needed to do for selves to function well. You all have been there to hear all of this, allow me to vent, tell me that I'm not weak OR crazy, and cheer me on. Without all of you, I don't know if I could've made it to this point. I thank each of you for sending me strength that I so desperately needed. One thing after another kept happening...illnesses, emergencies with family, other things.

Well, I want you to know...everything's going to be just fine. Hubby and I have decided that I will quit work and raise this little man. I just couldn't keep doing both and he needs more of me right now. At first hubby didn't want me to quit cause I do much better working, but I explained I have a more important focus now. So, now with his blessing, I'll not go back to work (not one more day) and have what it takes to do what I need to do...for all of us. Things are turning around finally! We are all doing very well, and I'm so excited about the future. I can look at it and smile now instead of looking and it and knowing if not tomorrow the next day, I'm going to fall apart because I can't handle everything.

I wish you all the best and thank you so much from my heart. I will always keep you posted about this precious little life that has been entrusted to my care and I want you to know that his health, happiness and life is top of my list and is going to stay that way...he's got me 100% now and he's going to come through this just fine.

Be safe,

Kimmydawn

[silver_queen]

That's so good to read kimmy. I'm glad you've finally got the pressure taken off you and now you can concentrate on what you want to do

[kimmydawn]

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I'm saying ty to you alot lately. once again, THANK YOU.

Be safe,

Kimmdawn

Your post is a blessing to DocJohn, and all the mods and posters here. It's such a blessing to ALL of us to see the good this site can bring to another soul.

Thank you SO much for your post. Truly, it warmed my heart tonight.

emmy

[eskielover]

It is so good to hear a happy event for someone here. I is so good to hear that your life is coming together along with those around you, especially your new little man. It is so good that you have found the priorities that are important to your life & important to his. You all will have a wonderful future given the love that you have to offer. You don't know how happy it makes me to read this totally positive post. I thank you for sharing your blessings with us & a story with a happy ending or new beginning as it really is.

I wish you the best for you & your family's future,
Debbie

[kimmydawn]

Thank you, Emily.

It's very important to me to let those who have worried and care know what's been going on here. It's a great bonus that it's a blessing as well

I know what a blessing the wonderful ppl here and DocJohn have been to me. Honestly, I would not have made it as well as I did (or at all) without friends here to talk to me, console me, boost me, etc. at different hours of the day and nite.

Emotional upset doesn't come once a week when it's t time, and alot of times things need to and should be talked about at that moment. Looking at it that way, what a wonderful gift this site is and the people who make it what it is.

Thanks again!

Kimmydawn

[kimmydawn]

Thank you, Debbie!

I am blessed that I can quit work (we're going to feel the crunch), but I can. How blessed am I that I have a hubby who's not only allowing me take off, but loves this little man and is more patient with him than he was his own girl.

I can now see the clearing...I couldn't before. My main priority is to ensure this child a place where he can be nurtured and grow into a fine, productive, caring man.

Be safe,

Kimmydawn

[(JD)]

kimmy it IS good to hear this! (and you figured it out inspite of all our advice! lol)

[kimmydawn]

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LOL. you've been there for me in concern and with relaxing my mind. The most i relaxed in those 7 wks was coming into chat and talking and playing that game it used my mind in such a fun way!

Thank you for being there and being you,

Kimmydawn

[Raynaadi]

Kimmy----congratulations on your new addition! However unexpected, it certainly sounds like it will be a huge help for you. Thank goodness you have a wonderful man in your life!

I know exactly how you feel about this place. It has helped me so much to post, and especially hang out in chat ALL afternoon, hehe. Thank you for letting us know how you're doing!

Take care,
Raynaadi

[wisewoman]

Hey Kimmy, keep talking to us and I am glad you found a way to do what your heart ached for. Please love the little guy and keep us posted. Can I be an Aunt from afar?

[Maya]

What a wonderful post and decision you have made - what wonderful gifts you have given to the child and to those of us here on the forum. May your life be blessed and happy and may you continue to grow in strength and intention.

[SweetCrusader]

((((((((Kimmydawn)))))))) Did I ever tell you how incredible I think you are?

You really are!

Angela

[Nerak]

Kimmy that is great to hear. I wish you nothing but the best. You to have been an inspirtatin and elp to so many hear including myself. Take care of you and your family.

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[Wants2Fly]

Kimmy -- I agree. Sorry I didn't get to know you.

[MLuckycharm76]

I am new here but I just wanted to say kuddos and as a child that got lost and almost destroyed by the system I cannot praise and be sooooo proud of you enough for taking in your nephew so he doesn't get lost or worse, destroyed. It's awesome that you are commited to giving him 100% and that you are doing really good, I just want to express the importance of not forgetting to take care of yourself. Keep doing it. It obviously works. I will keep you in my good thoughts lol.

[kimmydawn]

Welcome MLuckycharm! I hope you find the support and comfort here that I have. It's really a great place.

I'm sorry for what happened to you in your childhood. I thank you for sharing it, though. I think we knew this would happen since the time that we found out his momma was pregnant. We've been helping, watching, supporting and waiting.

Thank you again for reinforcing my decision and why. I wish you nothing but the best in your adult life...happiness, wellbeing, and healing.

Be safe,

Kimmydawn