[todd]

I met a girl over the net at this free dating site online for mentally ill www.nolongerlonely.com we hit it off but she got scared away and made me severly depressed my question is how do I get a girlfriend and where i can go to meet women?

[nothemama8]

have you tried mh support groups in your area

[todd]

iyou mean mental health support groups

[nothemama8]

yeah

[nothemama8]

Are you here for support or dating?

NAMI meetings might be a good place if you'd like to find someone who also struggles with mental health issues. And if you don't find someone at the meeting, let all the older ladies know that you want a steady girl,...and they will keep an eye out for available women for you!

Good luck Todd!

emmy

Todd, I'm sorry that you're having a hard time finding someone to date......it took me forever.....at least to find someone that was compatible with my craziness.....:-) Just be patient and do go to the groups that were recommended and when you quit looking, she'll turn up!!! pat

[SweetCrusader]

Todd,

I'm just wondering if there's a reason why you are looking particularly for a girl with a mental illness. Could you enlighten me on that one?

? Angela

[Wants2Fly]

Hi Todd -- Being alone is hard, and perhaps no time of the harder is more lonely than the holidays.

Here is my perspective on finding someone -- when I make myself my first priority and give up trying to "find someone," men are attracted to me. When I make "finding someone" my priority, it's like trying to grab hold of a shadow. Or else, I attract men who are as needy as I am and not necessarily good for me.

This is not necessarily everyone's dynamic -- I've read about people who decide to mount a very systematic, organized search for the perfect partner. My dynamic, however, is that I when I'm looking for someone, I'm generally wanting someone to complete me, to fill up something that's vacant, empty, missing in me. Only when I am in spaces where I am doing that for myself with some to spare am I attractive to the right kind of man.