No girlfriend

I nearly had a girlfriend. This girl I met in the unit with an eating disorder. We really hit it off. If that guy Levi, who was also anorexic, hadn't been there, I would be with Mandy. God, just remembering her smile warms my heart. But Levi has more skills than me; he plays guitar and drums and is also funnier than me. I feel like a loser now that I don't have a girlfriend. I also had a crush on this red headed Mormon girl that's like half my size. (I'm 6'0) I never seem to have luck with girls. It's probably because they buy into that myth that I'm smart. What can I do? It's such a turnoff...

Phil, being smart is NOT a turnoff... to the contrary! But, I do have to say that you seem to be a pretty unhappy guy, and that generates attention primarily from girls who are into "fixing" guys. However, that's not really a healthy thing to be attracted to.

I know that it's not easy to just wake up one day and say "hey - I'm going to try being HAPPY! today", but what I find attractive in a guy is someone who is smart, positive and determined to create his own destiny. We all have a darker side, but that should be kept to a minimum for maximum attractiveness by girls who are looking for a boyfriend for the right reasons.

Good luck, Phil - I'm sending you positive vibes and good luck ~~~~~

Being smart isn't a turnoff! (((((((((((( Phil ))))))))))))))

I know it's hard Phil, when you feel you are sitting outside the fringe of the "in crowd". I used to feel that way too and it hurts like hell.

One thing I did learn though (as I matured), that not having a boyfriend/girlfriend was NOT the end of the world. I also learned that things happen for a reason and when the time was right, I would find someone or they would find me

I found that the best thing I could do was to be a good friend to folks. From friendship came deeper relationships and lots of respect. It takes time to establish a good relationship with another person. And if a relationship with someone is meant to be more than a friendship....it will happen. Patience is key.

I also remember that while being "alone" it gave me time to work on myself. Asking questions about what I liked or disliked about myself and why. What could I do to improve? I watched other folks....what was it they were doing that attracted others to them? I learned social skills (I didn't have a lot). It was hard.....but I got through it and I know you will too.

Just think how sweet a relationship can be when it happens at the right time

Hugsss
sabby