[katheryn]

just a silly vent, daughter who is 21 is off to uni next week end so she went of to meet up with her friend yesterday for the last time, deciding to join in and drink, a bit of background her friend is about a year or two younger than her but allready has a daughter who is two and is living with her boy friend these pair drink a lot and argue a lot

well last night was no exception she texted to let us now she would stay other
but about 12.30 she rang she walked out coz they were arguing again she had enough, the other friend had also left as well, with no way to get home she rang us i was asleep hubby was watching tv
he said to wait at supermarket (it was closed)and we would be right there

this is unusual for hubby as he says she has to make her own way home normally

but he told me she was sounding upset

grrrrrrrrrrrrr i wonder if her friends will learn how much there arguing is hurting others

[allthegirls6]

I think people get so wrapped up in their normal behaviour and dont realise the effect they have on others. Im sorry your daughter got upset. One of my friends used to kiss her botfriend all the time, in front on me, big smoothie ones.................... I got sick of it in the end, it was like i was invisible or something and made me really uncofortable

((kathy and TRM)))))
I think it was smart to go get her
I hope shes ok
Maybe she should find some new friends to hang out with
Hopefully she will meet a whole bunch of new ppl att he uni
and life will get better for her
arguing really does hurt others....maybe she can stay away from that
Tell her good luck at uni
muffy

[MyBestKids2]

I'm sorry you're daughter was left in a lurch. It really stinks, maybe a lesson will be learned from this??? Heck, I don't know what, maybe she can catch a cab or public transportation.

(((Kathy & Family)))


Dee

[multipixie9]

Dear Katheryn,

Your husband did the right thing. Being responsible is important but sometimes things go off in ways we don't plan.

When I was 19, my friend took me to some new people who invited her over. I don't remember what happened exactly but she took off and left me there. I did not feel free to call home for a ride and later that evening I was raped. I don't remember it clearly, it was like a horrid nightmare - I did not drink alcohol - don't know if I was slipped a drug, but the one who raped me was a practicing satanist... chunks of time are missing in the night. I left at daylight and then it went blank.

All that because I couldn't call home for a ride and had no one else to call.

I have two daughters of my own and I would never leave them without a ride. I always told them even if they made a horrid mistake to call me and I would pick them up with no scene over whatever.(Please don't be offended,I'm not speaking against your spouse, he's right to teach responsibility for actions. I just feel that young girls in America are more vulnerable at night so I always wanted to encourage them to come to us for help even when they have messed up royally! I love my two daughters so much because of who they are and partly because I lost 3 others before birth, so the two who remain are my darlings!

Leslie feeling diminished by the memory

[katheryn]

thank you for your reply multipixie9 it must of been hard going over those memories

i agree its such a strange world we live in, normaly it was stuff like i missed the bus so i would tell her to go bk to friends and ask if sghe could stay teaching her that if she needed to be home she would make sure she was there when bus was

we are lucky we live in an area where crime isnt as high as it is where shes going of to uni, but even when picking her up at that time there were youngsters were forming around the stores carpark one even had a lengh of wood,

i allways have taught them to kleep moblie/cell phones close easy to reach when out and even if no credit on the phone 999 is free

[splitimage]

I think it was good that you and hsuband went to pick her up. When I lived at home, my Dad made it clear to me that if I ever got stuck in a bad situation I could call for a ride home no questions asked. I never needed to, but it made me feel better.

Hopefully when she goes away to uni she'll make some new, better friends.

--splitimage

[headhoncho]

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