[nothemama8]

I used to think the general public stigmatized us but know I find ppl with disorders are the biggest offenders, come on ppl we're all we have
Angie

[SeptemberMorn]

HUH??

[kimmydawn]

((((((((((((((((((( angie ))))))))))))))))))))))

what's happened hon? pm if you need to.

love,

kd

[adieuolivaw]

Dear Angie,

What's happened? Who said something? Can't imagine anyone saying anything unkind to such a sweet person as you! Please let us know.

Love,
Adieu

[nothemama8]

SeptMorn, and Adieu just venting cuz ppl were verbally attack long time member here and a very new member was also verbally hurt
such childish behaviour is not exceptable we are all adults
Angie

[cms39]

I'm sorry if I seem paranoid, but did I do anything wrong?

Just wondering and a little worried.

[nothemama8]

cms honey you did nothing wrong, just some mean spirited ppl acting childish, wasn't you
Angie

[SeptemberMorn]

Hun, I'm still confused. Was it here on the board or at your group?

I've got a young friend that is mentally challenged. When he was growing up and someone called him a "retardo," he was taught to say "Excuse me, but you don't know me. That's your preception of me. What I know and what you think are two different things." hehe I'll never forget that! I half-way expected him to jump up and punch the neighbor that called him that. I was so proud of him!

[kimmydawn]

sept. is was here...

i think that when someone feels that someone has wronged them, they should...

1) take a deep breath and do over convo/actions in their head to make sure they understood correctly.

2) address the issue in p.m. or in instant message (if in chat).

3) if at fault, apologize. if the one being hurt either accept or deny apology and keep self safe. if at fault, the only thing that can be done is to apologize...then have no choice but to let it go. it's hard, i know.

4) do not involve other members. ask a moderator to mediate until things are worked out. however, if there is a long time trusted member to mediate, i think that would be good too.

things get blown way out of context when other ppl get involved. that's just my opinion from what i've watched here a couple of times. when other members get involved, ppl feel like they're being attacked...full fledged. it's hard.

just my opinion. i think disagreements should be kept between the ppl involved with a possible moderator. airing it scares some members (especially littles), alienates others, angers others, and for new members seeking help, it could scare them away.

i only say this as an observer...watching how things progress and why. i'm sorry if i offended anyone. this was NOT my intent. it's just what i feel is appropriate. i do realize that it may not be what others feel is appropriate.

i care so deeply for psychcentral and the members. it hurts me to see pain and upset here.

N

[kimmydawn]

i want to add that i was vague about being aired. i think this is a great post. what i meant about "airing it" is that having the argument in public. i just wanted to clarify that statement.

N

[nothemama8]

[kimmydawn]

an impact statement that's beautifully done.

N

[wisewoman]

Don't have a clue what is going on but love to you not the mama and to Kim, everyone else as far as that goes. Be well please and lets be who we wish to be.