Questions about posting while depressed

I have a few questions in regards to posting while depressed and hoping y'all can shed a little insight on my thinking.

1. Do you post while depressed?

2. Do you post while in the abyss?

3. Why do you do it?

4. Are you hoping to get responses?

5. If so, what kind of responses?

6. Is there any kind of response that you would not like to receive, if so what and why?

7. Do you think you know what kind of response, if any, a person who is either depressed or in the abyss might be looking for?

8. Do you presume to know what they're looking for?

9. Would you offer a response that you know would not be received well?


BTW, you can presume to know that I *am* looking for responses to this post.

Thanks in advance.

1. Do you post while depressed?
While I have not been diagnosed with clinical depression, there are days I feel depressed and yes, I still post. Albeit, less than when I feel good. But I post.

2. Do you post while in the abyss?
Doesn't really apply to me.

3. Why do you do it?
Post? Even when upset? I post because sometimes it makes me feel better to think I have helped someone else.

4. Are you hoping to get responses?
I always hope for responses. Sometime you get them...sometimes not. But it's nice to hear other people's thoughts.

5. If so, what kind of responses?
Helpful...insightful...uplifting...etc. Or at least someone saying, hey, I've been there too.

6. Is there any kind of response that you would not like to receive, if so what and why?
Negative or dismissive responses.

7. Do you think you know what kind of response, if any, a person who is either depressed or in the abyss might be looking for?
Nope.

8. Do you presume to know what they're looking for?
Once again, nope!

9. Would you offer a response that you know would not be received well?
That all depends on my mood. For the most part, I don't want to start or deal with an argument so I keep my mouth shut. There have been several posts/people I have intentionnally not responded to because I didn't think I could be cronstructive or helpful. Because their situations hit too close to home for me. So I did not respond to their posts.

i post here in "any" state that i may be in. i have received so much comfort, support and honesty here. i do know that i open myself up for "brutal" honesty, or the occasional post that might be hurtful. i've not experienced that yet. i've posted angry, sad, happy, inspired, dissociative, etc. i was always glad that i did.

as far as dealing with other posts, i only respond to those for which i can offer support, sympathy, insight, suggestions or compassion. if i come across a post that i feel my answer may be hurtful or argumentative, i do not respond...more for myself than the poster. "we" don't deal well with discord. there could be a variety of reactions here that i would have a hard time dealing with later, so they're avoided altogether.

i would never presume to know what another needed, only offer what i would want if in the same situation.

1. Do you post while depressed?
Yup I do
2. Do you post while in the abyss?
sometimes
3. Why do you do it?
sometimes just to vent or sometimes to get feedback on what is going on in that particular situation
4. Are you hoping to get responses?
sometimes depending on the post
5. If so, what kind of responses? Supportive, advice given

6. Is there any kind of response that you would not like to receive, if so what and why? Negative or condecending answers

7. Do you think you know what kind of response, if any, a person who is either depressed or in the abyss might be looking for? Supportive, non-judgemental

8. Do you presume to know what they're looking for? Nope

9. Would you offer a response that you know would not be received well? probably not

Janniebug

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5. If so, what kind of responses?
Helpful...insightful...uplifting...etc. Or at least someone saying, hey, I've been there too.


9. Would you offer a response that you know would not be received well?
That all depends on my mood. For the most part, I don't want to start or deal with an argument so I keep my mouth shut. There have been several posts/people I have intentionnally not responded to because I didn't think I could be cronstructive or helpful. Because their situations hit too close to home for me. So I did not respond to their posts.

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Hi 1day

First, thanks for your response. I'm wondering if you could be a little more specific in the above replies you gave.

5. What kind of things would you consider helpful or insightful?

9. You said it depends on your mood. So, if you were in the mood to give a response that you felt would not be received well, what kind of things would that response contain and why would you give it if you thought it would not be well received.

Just looking for a little clarification with no intentions of arguing, so you don't need to worry about that.

Hi KimmyDawn, thanks for your response. Could you be more specific on what you would consider to be insightful please.

Hi janniebug, thanks for your response. Can you please tell me what kind of advice you might be open to and what you wouldn't?

what i would consider insightful would be a response that states what i've done in a similar situation, what i would feel, etc. insightful response to me would be that i take a person's post (situation and/or feelings) apply them to myself and then respond appropriately. i call that relating. there's not much i can't relate with unfortunately

for instance, if you were posting about a situation in where you were verbally attacked by someone IRL, i would put myself in your shoes (if i could, of course) and respond as to what my actions and feelings might be. i've always had this relation thing going on with other ppl. what t pointed out to me is that i also demand that before i give any of myself out. he said he learned early on in order for me to talk, he had to give some of himself to me first in conversation. i'd never known that about myself. however, since he said that, i've found that to be very true. once a person does open up to me...i'm pretty free-flowing...sometimes too much

AngelGirl we post mainly for the support from others as needed and to be supportive to those who need
Angie

Thanks for that clarification. Much appreciated.

Thanks notthemama. What would you consider to be supportive and what would you consider to not be supportive?

First, some people don't want an opinion different than their own. I accept that and either alter my post or don't post based on that. In real life, some people aren't going to change their mind...no matter what you say, I usually reach a point where I don't feel like wasting my time to get them to see they aren't right. (This is usually in regards to people feeling worthless, etc.) I fight people's low self-esteem until I feel they are no longer listening....then I agree to disagree.

As far as helpful or insightful. It's usually people suggesting ideas I haven't thought of or other points of view.

Hope that helps!

Ok, new question.

10. How would you feel if somebody offered info on a different dx than that of which you have been given by a qualified pdoc, with them knowing what your dx is?

AngelGirl, being supportive is letting a person know you care and will stay by there side until the're feeling more themselves
Non- supportive is someone making light of the feelings (saying there just making a mountain out of a mole hill) not really caring
Angie

Thanks notthemama. I agree with you.

AngelGirl, just curious why all the questions and what are your feelings on these questions
Angie

I'd rather not be too specific, although some probably already know, but I received a response that I felt was very unsupportive and upset me and I just wanted to get other people's viewpoints without getting too specific with my questions.

Hi AG,

Here are my answers:

1. I do post when depressed. When I am at my worst, though, I mostly just post short things that really don't say much, because I don't feel like pouring my heart out when I'm at my worst.

2. I'm not sure

3. I post because I really hurt a LOT and I just want to know someone cares.

4. I always hope to get responses and I feel really hurt if I dont.

5. Whatever responses people can give sincerely. I really like people to share that they've been through what I'm going through and can understand how I feel- then I feel less freakish. My favorite posts, to be honest, are gushy ones. A lot of people write those kinds of posts. I like to be told if they love me, and I guess I kind of like to be babied.

6. I hate it when people make sarcastic remarks, reply to my thread but don't empathize or even seem to care that I'm hurting, or reply just to talk to someone else who posted there and don't say anything to me. It hurts

7. I think it depends on the person. We are all different. I try to respond according to what I know about that person when I can.

8. No I don't presume to know what they're looking for, but sure hope that I can say something that helps

9. I might. Depends on why I was offering it, and if I thought it would help them.

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10. How would you feel if somebody offered info on a different dx than that of which you have been given by a qualified pdoc, with them knowing what your dx is?

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Honestly...wouldn't bother me. They may see something that hubby's doc hadn't seen or we hadn't thought of.

A family friend's husband was diagnosed with severe depression....several years later they are thinking it may be bipolar disorder. Their lives could have been so much better so much earlier had someone brought this up to them and suggested they speak to the doc about this sooner.

I think it's a personal thing honestly. Docs don't know it all...but I have no problem asking my hubby's doc(s) about dx's we've heard about that sound similar. Then they can rule those disorders out and I don't worry about them.

But thats just me.

sweet crusader, thx for your responses

1day - but what if the dx that was being presented to you was one that you've already been tested for and it was discarded by a pdoc who was evaluating you and this person knew all that?

Angel Girl,

I'm going to weigh in on this and say that I don't think all this discussion is really necessary. The person who posted on your thread was asked not to do that again, and I really feel that it should be dropped. Please?

Thank you,
Angela

Nevermind.

WOW!!! I didn't expect to get slapped in the face. I wish I didn't post this thread at all. I was just looking for other viewpoints. I didn't see anything wrong with that but obviously I was wrong. I'd like to apologize to everybody.

CONSIDER THIS THREAD CLOSED - CAN SOMEBODY PLEASE DELETE IT FOR ME!!!

AngelGirl, don't look at it as a slap in the face , you just recieved constructive critisizum, you don't need other opinions if you feel your right, also this matter was corrected let it go holding grudges affects everyone
Angie

AngelGirl you are so sweet, ignore the ppl that try to hurt you
Angie