[dusty]

Hi All, I have been out of work for a long time. Laid off and unable to find work. I have found out that I can't stand due to arthritis in hips so bad so that rules out lots of jobs. I am not a puter whiz no matter how many classes I take.
The problem is the last few days I just can't seem to muster up anything to do anything. I start out looking in the paper and just give up. I try to do something in my house and can't even finish it.
It's like I see the end of the road and that in time when I run out of money I will fall off at the end and here I sit now like a lump.
I have no one, no one to turn to no one to advise me nothing. My friends here are wealthy and just say you will find something and the thing is I am not. I am older and everyone I knew in any business is retired now. God I just never expected to be here and now I feel I am hiding in my home or something.
I don't have insurance because I did that a few years ago and the money just isn't there for Cobra again.
I kid about being a bag lady and yet it is so real. And at the same time I can't qualify for any help because I have money still in the bank. I feel stuck and helpless and worthless.All the thins I don't need to feel now. I am usually a positive person but this has just done me in I think. I don't think anyone can help my situation but can anyone help me to be more productive and not like I have been the last two days? Thanks Dusty

[Raynaadi]

Hi Dusty and welcome!

I have soo been in your shoes. Being out of work for whatever reason and then being depressed about being out of work...having a hard time getting out to find something. The turning point for me was having to go on unemployment. I know you said you don't qualify for help because you have money in the bank, but I that here in Arizona, you can still get assistance at DES (dept of econimic security) in looking for a job, even if you don't have benefits. Here, you tell someone what you're good at and what might be a possibility for you, and they search a database and print up jobs, tell you where to go to apply etc. I had a job within a week, which I didn't like, but it was money, and it got me motivated enough to get back to doing what i love! Just having found a job gave me some self esteem back, and I was able to get out there again and feel human. Maybe there's a service like that where you are? Or maybe try some volunteer work for now, just to give you some motivation. I would look into what services the department of econimic security offers for non-benefited people. In the meantime, keep coming here! This is a great bunch, and though we may be able to solve your problem, we at least understand and are here to talk. Drop by chat sometime too! Anyway....welcome, post often, and hope we can help!

Rayna

boy, dusty, do i know how you feel!! it's horrible to feel so alone and see life marching by.......being unemployed really depresses me too.......i second the suggestions that you got above and will tell you that doing that may have gotten me a second job.......hang in there and keep coming here. we're really lucky to have this website.....lots of caring people here. pat

[TryingBelieve]

Hi Dusty,

I can really relate to a lot of what you are saying. I am also unemployed. Laid off three years ago. And like you I am older (51). It s*cks.

What concerns me for you (and for me) is the "I just can't seem to muster up anything to do anything". Please Dusty, reach down deep and muster up!!!!

I just don't want you to be where I am 3 years from now. Maybe if you do it, I can too!

We are smart.
We are hard workers.
We have a lot to offer.

Please Dusty!

[vacantangel]

Hi Dusty, Welcome to PC. I know what it feels like to be out of work. I'm not laid off, although I have been in that position before. Right now I'm on long term disability. It must be extremely hard to look for a job when you're depressed. I'm sorry to hear that you find yourself in this situation. I think you've been given some good advice by those who have already replied before I have, so I just want to let you know that I care and send you a cyber hug. I would suggest that maybe you see your doctor about your depression. Good luck in finding a job. {{{{{{{{{{{dusty}}}}}}}}}}

[dusty]

Morning, Thought I lost this place!! I wanted to thank everyone for the replys. I was so suprised this morning when I saw them.
I see I am not alone in feeling this way. I think my Doc is well aware of how depressed I am, but you know what????They don't seem to bother with it. Just write down how depressed I am and hope it changes when i get a job.
I am going to go to unemployment Monday if I can managed to keep going and ask them if they have anything like you mentioned to me.
Because all of you are right, I do feel worthless, unable to get a job, so feeling worse about self. Just watching everything i have earned be lost and eventually my home..it is sick! You have to loes it all before anyone will look at you. I am 59, who doean't have money saved at this age?I have been out one year so far! If I don't find something by the summer I know it is over, I will not be able to continue living and paying maintenance. Ok, So Monday I will com back and tell you what happened.
Thank you all for helping me, for caring..I guess I feel like it is only me. And I know better but still..

[vacantangel]

Good luck on Monday Dusty. Try to think positive. Please let us know how things go. (((((((Dusty)))))))