[SeptemberMorn]

Could we use a Self-Esteem Forum?

You may see the results after you vote. Thanks!

[vacantangel]

WOW!!! I know we are all entitled to our own opinions and have the right to voice them but I am shocked at the results so far as I placed my vote.

[LMo]

What do you mean, Angelgirl?

[inkblot]

At first I thought of Kudos, but that forum really is for a pat on the back, or hugs, etc. Hmmmm....?

[vacantangel]

I personally didn't think that anybody would vote 'no'. I was very surprised. Even if someone doesn't need it themselves, there is always someone else who does. Or maybe they think there are too many forums now? I have no idea why votes would be cast in that direction because no reasons were posted but as I said, we are all entitled to our own opinions and nobody's opinion is worth more/less than the next person's. Let the votes fall where they may.

[silver_queen]

I thought that too, Inkblot. What would take place in a Self esteem forum? Doesn't Kudos and affirmations raise people's esteem somewhat?

Btw... I havent voted... I'm just wondering what things could be said in a self esteem forum, that aren't already said in people's supportive posts...

[LMo]

Oh - I thought Sept meant a place where people could talk about what they are doing to try to improve their self-esteem.

[SeptemberMorn]

Yes, Kudos is a place for hugs, pats on the back and such, but I was thinking of a place where we could work on our own self-esteem issues and maybe get something to work with to help us.

Please feel free to say how you feel about the way you voted, if you want to.

[vacantangel]

That's if your name appears in Kudos and Affirmations. Maybe in a self-esteem forum ideas could be shared on how to improve it?

[inkblot]

It could be a place to share inspirations for raising our self-esteem. Or a place to post if we are feeling down, but not depressed.

[vacantangel]

Exactly.

[neri]

i voted yes, but does anyone really have a good self-esteem here? i mean it probs comes out in all of the forums.
Or maybe this is just crazy talk and soon there's people with healthy self-esteem after me with torches
(just light those signs on fire and they are torches)

[LMo]

Actually, I have very good self-esteem.

[vacantangel]

LMo, that's great. I'm glad that you have been able to accomplish that. Maybe you wouldn't mind sharing with others what you did to acquire it.

[LMo]

Ha! I'll have to think about that Angelgirl. A lot of it just came with getting older. If I can come up with anything remotely interesting to say, I'll post it here! ;-)

[nothemama8]

I also have good self-esteem, took a lot of hard work but was worth it
Angie

[vacantangel]

That's wonderful. I wish I knew how to acquire it.

[nothemama8]

Patience and a lot of hard work little one
Reah
(I'm one of Angie's alters sweetie)

[LMo]

I'd say having determination to succeed. I had terrible self-esteem in junior high and high school and it manifested itself in 'rebellious' ways. However, I was very smart and it kind of got on my nerves that people (my dad, other kids, teachers) seemed to expect me to fail. In college, I made a fresh start and worked my *** off to get good grades, build a resume of marketable skills, develop better social skills, take better care of myself, and to not project anything that would mark me as someone with esteem problems. Meaning, I toned down the goth clothes (although it wasn't called goth back then), worried less about whether I was conforming, not conforming, blending, standing out... I just started BEING. After college, I saw what I could achieve and the rewards that could be had if I conducted myself well and always did a good job. The self-esteem naturally followed. However, as I said earlier, a lot of it just came with growing up and losing my immaturity.

[vacantangel]

Hi Rhea

I've never met you before. Thanks for the good advice. I'm not too good with patience either.

[nothemama8]

We all transform at different times sweetheart
Reah

[vacantangel]

You are very nice. I'm glad to meet you.

[SeptemberMorn]

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Bingo! This is exactly what I'd like to see happen! Another example is a small workbook I got when I was in the hospital. I'd love to post the exercises but I know that if it was posted in General, it would get lost. When I went through the Mental Health forums, it would have fit in any of them. Seems that most of us have issues with self-esteem since it's a common by-product of most mental health issues. I thought it would be great to have some place to deal with the problem separately.

You're opinions are welcome, so go for it!

[vacantangel]

SeptemberMorn, I would love to see the workbook. I hope DocJohn considers adding a self-esteem forum.

[SeptemberMorn]

I hope so, too, but if not, I'll share it with you somehow.