[MOMW]

I'n having a bad day today. I feel so lost in how to deal with my depressed daughter. She is so argumentative. Then we just end up butting heads. Any ideas on how to communicate better? She sees a Therapist, but does not want a family secession yet. She is 19 I have no say in her treatment., but she lives at home, so things have been really hard. I just feel so lost..............

[bebop]

I am so sorry. it sure sounds like a bad place for you to be in since she is over 18 and still lives at home. to me any child that still lives at home the parents should be able to get at least some limited information.

[Rhapsody]

Above all things.... Females need and want to feel CHERISHED at all times, even within the tone and sound of your voice when you talk to her. Watch your body language and never roll or eyes or say.... YOU should do this (or) Because I said and I am your mother.

I would probably guess that she needs both a friend & a mother right now, one that she knows will love her and support her no matter what. Can you do that for her?

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[MOMW]

Thanks for your thoughts. That was exactally what I was trying to do. Some days no matter what I do seems not to help. It is just so hard to watch a person go through this. I seem to be the person she lashes out on even when it's not my fault. And I'm just not perfect and I do get upset some times.

[walkswithspiritbear]

I am truly sorry for your hard time with your daughter. I understand her lashing out at you since I do the same to my husband. Heck he is the only one I ever see, so any lashing is either toward myself or him... It is hard on him, but he tends to most times just let it roll off his back (thank goodness its a strong one) anyhow I digress. I wish I knew exactly what to say. I have a 25 yr old who doesn't live with me who suffers from depression and she lashes at me for the past wrongs I have supposedly done to her.. makes it real hard to be her friend when I know her information is wrong, but this isn't the time to tell her I guess. I hope and pray for you that you continue to have the strength to be what your daughter needs. Since I don't know her issues I don't know what more I can say to try to comfort you who also is in need of support.. I try to look at this from my hubby's prespective as he puts up with alot from me, perfect I am not but then again who is? Try to just stay as calm and loving as possible and I will be here if you would like to pm me... take care of you first, then your daughter okay!!!! (((MOM))))

[MOMW]

Thanks you so much or your response. I does help. Sometimes I feel like I am alone in this. I am trying to be understanding and of course loving. It just hurts so much when she lashes out. It is so hare to watch someone you love fall apart and make poor choices. This is affecting her friends (most which don't call or see her anymore), school, and most of all work (she doesn't want to go at all) . Some days I deal well and others I just fall apart. This is all new to me. Seems that the people who want to help and know her best are left out of the loop. Thanks again for your response, and I hope your situation stays on a good path.

[(JD)]

((((hugs))))