I am also a caregiver

In addition to having depression, i also have several challenging physical conditions that keep me in chronic pain 24/7.
I am taking care of my 68 y/o disabled brother who moved back after we lost our sister last May (he lived w/ her). I really haven't had a relationship w/ him until now, because he was kicked out of our family when i was very young. He has COPD, mobility problems, diabetes. Right now he is in a nursing home getting rehab. I am in the process of doing all his "case management", medical billing, and trying to find subsidized housing for him. I did the same back in the 80's when my parents were failing.
Mostly i feel deep regret that i am not rich, or i think i should go to law school so i can make enough $$$ to support my family better. it's hard. and i feel bad that physcially i can only do so much---i need so much help myself, i feel ashamed about it.

I want to give my brother the love and family experience that he missed all those years he was away..to the extent that i can. He also has depression.
(yeah, we are a family of nuts).
So that's my caregiving story. I hope someday it will be "my turn" to fulfill my dreams, though they are getting tinier by the day.

Boo Radley

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I want to give my brother the love and family experience that he missed all those years he was away..to the extent that i can.
Boo Radley

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Welcome, Boo.

I think your words, above, say it all. We can do anything we set our hearts on, if we break down into small enough mouthfuls that we don't choke on it.

All will be well.

Lar

I think Larry's got it right. Sometimes everything seems overwhelming. Break it down and do a little at a time. You must be an amazing person to do this for your brother.