BPD friend trying to reach out after NC?

Hey all,

So long story short I had this BPD friend who I was really close to but for the past 6 months or so she has split me black and has hated me. Now we have been NC for around 6 weeks and the last time we spoke she told me wanted me out of her life forever. However in the past week she has contacted me with messages saying she's outside my house, when I asked why her response was, "Why not". She has done this twice now and i'm not exactly sure why. I don't get much mobile signal at my house and the first time she text me to say she was in the car park outside, I got the message 2 hours after she sent it by which time she had left. Then the second time I missed her as I was at the gym. She seems to be a bit less hostile and when I text her asking if she wanted to be friends again she replied, "I'm sorry but it's a no" and that her bf hates me and would never be okay with it.

Has anyone else ever experienced this? Is she trying to reach out or something? This whole thing is pretty confusing :S

Would really appreciate any advice

My impression is that she is reaching out, asking for forgiveness, and asking for help in the only way she knows how...her pride and the BPD are getting in the way of actually doing it. It doesn't mean she'll accept your help though, keep that in mind. She is pushing and pulling at the same time. Great fun if I say so myself.

There's no reason for her to be near your home.

It's stalking. .especially more concerning, where it's not to get back together, not that, that, would make it better.

Need to set some guidelines with her...

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Hey thanks for the replies.

Just a bit confused as to what to do. I still care about her and I do want her back which is why I don't want to push her away. If she is trying to reach out then I want to help her but as Maranara said, she might not let me.

If she is staliking me what does that mean? I've tried setting boundries before with her but we both seem to break them. When we were close she used to just take a drive to my house because apprently she wanted to be 'near' me when she was upset.