Apologizing to a narcissist( help please!)

To make a long story short i met this very charming nice person that i really much liked. We connected instantly the first time we met. We hung out evertthing was so Good it all went fast but the very next day the person got so cold and distant it was like a completly diffrent person. I got so sad. I have tried to apologize and tried to speak with No sucsess. I tried asking what i have done wrong eventhough i cant think of anything. I get no answers or get told to go away or i get the dormatory door closed hard in my face even if i am just walking by. How can i get the person jealous, ready to accept the apology and sorry. To make the person wanna be close to me again. Any tips or advice i can TRy out that probably will work? The person has got NPD

Why would you want to get close to someone that treats you the way you have been treated? The person in question has a lot of work to do on his/her way of communicating with others before close relationships can be formed.

Did you really do something so bad that would make the person react in this way, especially since you just met? Doesn't sound like a forgiving person. I would let this friendship go.

The thing is i didnt do anything the person just got cold out of no where

I'm a little bit confused... did you meet this person, have a great time, and then the next day they wanted nothing to do with you? That is how it sounds to me, so my response is based on that interpretation - if I'm wrong, I apologize!

If you only met them the night before, then it wouldn't really be appropriate to keep bothering this person as it means you'd be spending more time apologizing and bothering them than you would have spent in a friendship together. If you just met one day and didn't hang out again, they don't owe you any explanations.

You haven't said what you did that could require an apology, but if you didn't do anything then there is no need to apologize and it's just an unfortunate case of having one person not like the other. If you did do something that warranted an apology, well, they don't have to accept it or give you another chance.

Trying to make them jealous or to somehow force them to accept your apology isn't the right choice, no matter what went on before hand. You can't force someone to keep you in their life, and you can't force forgiveness. Trying to make someone jealous is not a very mature action and also won't result in them giving you another chance in the long run.

How do you know that this person has NPD if you've only known them for a day? Most people aren't super open about mental illness, especially the ones that get a loooot of negative stigma.

When you say everything went so fast... do you mean that the two of you had sex that night? If so, that might be why you're getting the cold shoulder. It's sad, but its not uncommon for someone to disappear after a hookup. That might be all the person was looking for...

By the way, NPDs tend to "idealize, devalue, and discard."

I agree with the posts above and only add that your best bet would be just leave him alone. Anyone who would 'dump' you so very quickly with no warning, is bad news all around.

Give yourself time to meet someone who is good for you.