[godiva34]

Hi everyone,
I'm a new member. My mother suffers from depression and anxiety.
She takes prozac but not as prescribed, sometime she takes it sometimes she doesn't. last Weds. she threatened to call the police on me and tell them I tried to kill her! (obviously a manipulation/control issue (usual behavior) and perhaps a psychotic break, because she has never stated something like this).
I was wondering if anyone has ever been in a situation like this and I could use some advice from those who have experienced something like this.
Danni

[EJ711]

Godiva,

That does sound like an extremely manipulative maneuver. I have only had that kind of experience with a child who was placed in my home, who had severe Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Maybe she is not being prescribed the right medication. It sounds like you need support from her psychologist or psychiatrist.



EJ

[miztexrgv]

I am having the same problem with my mother in law right now. It is horrible, and I feel like everywhere I turn the rest of the world either doesn't understand or is too stupid or busy to care. I don't know where you live and the laws are different everywhere, but in Texas you can have her committed to a Psychiatric facility for up to 72 hours. Problem is, if she is a manipulative person like my MIL, then she can fool the pros if she is only observed short term. Then they have to let her go. If you can get other family members to help you, you can all get her declared incompetant and then put her in a facility. But they don't help much either. My experience has been that they are short of staff, don't take the time to document everything like they should, and fail to communicate with each other and family members. I wish I could help you more, but I am in the middle of this right now(lawyers from one relative are sending police out and making complaints, threatening court actions, revolking power of attorney, etc. ) We are so drained and sick, that we are considering letting her out and cutting all ties with her forever. She will probably go back to her little apartment where no one will help her and die shortly afterwards. We sound mean and cold, don't we?But that is what happens when you deal with a malignant narcissis with dementia. It is her survival or yours and your family. We have young children and they are suffering, too.
Keep me posted. I really care, although I don't know you, I feel your pain very much. You obviously love her and are trying to do what is right for her. The decisions you will have to make are hard. I suggest you keep a folder of everyone you talk to: Psychiatrists, mental health facilities, nurses, etc. Document EVERYTHING! It will back you up later in court if necessary, and it will help the doctors to make the correct diagnoses. Good Luck!

[Rose3]

Just wanted to - say - yes, I've been in the situation of being accused
of planning to kill my mother (and it is not true), during her psychosis, paranoia, delusions, hallucinations. After getting her friends involved, they convinced her to go to the hospital. She wouldn't listen to me or to her doctor. In hospital, they put her on antipsychotic medication. Kept her there for a month. Discharged her back home - within a week she was going through it all again.
I had to leave - because I feared for my own safety (her irrational thoughts, paranoia, themes of murder, accusations, etc).
At this point in time - it's been 2 years already - she still expresses more delusions, paranoia, etc.