[DepChild]

This ones gona be a little long.
I feel very depressed right now....I need help because I have no idea what to do.
My mother( in my opinon) may have some issues...Shes always accusing my father of cheating on her, (although there is NO proof) She keeps tryin to find proof to make me think hes evil though, I'm kinda unsure of he is or not but the yelling is driving me crazy. Some people say she has paranoia disorder, or somthing like that. She sometimes think i'm helping my dad do the bad things to her. Such as hiding her things and then make them appear again. things ilke shoes medicine etc. Her family is very supportive of her and incorage her that my father is evil. Her brother a pastur. tells her that my father does not love her anymore. He told my father that if he does this to mom God wont forgive him and he will recieve coincequences. Dad sometimes cries..Sometimes mom is really normal, She acts like she loves dad very much. She makes him breakfast and when dad seem to not feel well she gets worried. The suspicion from her is on and off. I cry secretly i used to try to help my mom find out thigns bout dad. sometimes she believes hes not cheating and other times i duno maybe someone she talked to she start believing again. now i just dont care, i stand on neither side. I want this to end. I've thought of doing extreme things but always decide not to because I'm afraid. Now i'm afraid if i will get worst. But thats not the problem..how can i help my mom. SHe wont devorce dad because she thinks he will steal all the money. my dad is trapped. mom is in pain. I feel like i'm in hell..and sometimes when things are normal..its like heaven. please help

[silentlyscreaming]

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I'm sorry that you are stuck in the middle of this sticky situation.
I know you are worried about your mum(and I will address that in a sec) but I kind of feel sorry for your dad. Why are so many people against him??? From what you've said it sound like he's not getting all that much support.
As for your mum, do you think that maybe someone has planted the idea that your father is cheating?? It sounds like people she is close to don't have a lot of time for your father. Do you know if there is a reason for this? Has something happened in the past??
Have you maybe thought of sitting your parents down and telling them how much their arguing is effecting you? Maybe they don't realise how much pressure they've put on you, and I'm sure the last thing either of them want is to hurt you.
Good luck and keep posting. Let us know how things are going.
Feel free to PM me if you want to talk.

[Direction]

Welcome to PC...

SilentlyScreaming posses some interesting questions and would just add these thoughts.

Please keep posting and talk to someone professionally...you are in the midst of a lot...

If so many people believe your dad is bad for your mom...is there some reason...did he cheat on someone? an old girlfriend? or your mom? This could be something that is not discussed at all...it would certainly tear at trust levels....if there has been no cheating it seems odd that the deck would be stacked so against him?

This is a toughy...diffently talk to someone

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<font color="#000088">I think Silentlyscreaming had a lot of good points to add! It does seem like the deck is certainly overly stacked against your Dad. And if your Mom is purposely hiding things, than maybe something isn't quite right with her mentally. I think that was a good point made about having a sit down with both of your parents, and leting them know how their constant fighting and your Moms paranoia is affecting you, and that you can't take it anymore being stuck in the middle. Because it really isn't fair for either of them to put you in the middle. It's their relationship, and even though it effects you how it turns out, having you do things, like spying on one or the other, or anything of that sort isn't fair to have you do. You are a neutral member of the household, that shouldn't be forced to take sides. It's not healthy emotionally to put you through that. I'm really sorry you are having to deal with this torment, which I'm sure that's what it feels like. That you are being tormented by both sides. I really think that you're family needs some counseling, if things will ever become resolved,especially with your Moms side feeding into her paranoia, and I think that they are probably just giving her things to accuse him of, that he may not be doing. But you never know, I don't know! But I would really sit down and talk with them, and let them know how much it is hurting you. Because I agree that they probably are not trying to hurt you in any way, and talking to them about it might help, atleast a little. It's better than doing nothing, and continueing on the road that you're on now! I hope things get better for you, and things atleast change for the better at home,so you won't have to deal with so much, that is not your responsibility to deal with!
I wish you the best in your efforts!
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