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Aug 09, 2007, 04:20 AM
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I am not normally a hateful person. That's why I have been scaring myself today with all of these thoughts of hatred I've felt towards my exboyfriend. I am over our relationship and have moved on, but I still have these strong feelings about him. This time they were triggered by a dream in which he appeared. I have a new boyfriend with whom I'm very happy so I am disturbed that I would still have such violent thoughts regarding my ex. Is this a borderline thing I'm experiencing? That's one of the key symptoms (inability to control anger or hatred) of borderline that has caused my doc and my therapists to disagree on the diagnosis. I just don't know... I feel like things are getting out of control. Any help would be much appreciated.
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Aug 11, 2007, 03:53 PM
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<font color="#000088">I think it may just be part of your borderline traits bothering you. Maybe if you focus really hard on how much you really care for your new boyfriend, than the bad feelings may subside after a little while. Your dream may have just triggered the hatred, and by focusing on the positive that you have now, may relieve your feelings of hatred towards your ex!
I hope that helps you feel a little better!  Oh,and by the way,Welcome to Psych Central!   </font>
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Aug 11, 2007, 06:33 PM
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ive also feel hatred toward an ex its been over 4 years but i cant seem to get over thr hurt and anger.. i to have a great b/f how i love alot.. i just cant seem to get past my anger and hatred toward this coward of a man.... not that this is helping ya.. but just thoguht id let ya know that ur not alone.. sorry if i made it worse
 
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Aug 13, 2007, 09:23 PM
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ex anything this is probably normal for most people...with BPD...you have the added benefits of valuing and devaluing someone and of course the anger thing...
Possible that getting over him is not quite done yet...I'm still healing from a divorce...
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Aug 13, 2007, 10:27 PM
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I tend to think if you feel anything worse than neutrality toward an ex-, you're probably not completely over the relationship. OTOH, if you can look back and find some good times and manage to remember them fondly, you may be healed. IDK how realistic that is, but it's a rule of thumb I apply to myself and past SOs.
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