I think I might have Borderline Personality Disorder

What should I tell a new therapist to help them accurately diagnose me this time?

I always thought I just had depression. I hadn't ever heard of Borderline until someone online mentioned it to me a couple of years ago. I read the symptoms, and it fits me very well. The only thing is, I don't do any self-harm or cutting, and I don't have the dissociative symptoms. But I do have everything else. The impulsivity. The loving my husband one day, but cheating on him the next. Extreme mood swings, but not really the "type" for Bipolar.

So...I want to make sure I get a correct diagnosis. Whether this is Borderline or something else. What do I need to emphasize from the beginning to help them know how to help me?

Does it ever get better, or will I be like this forever?

Have any of you fixed your messed-up marriages, or does it usually end in divorce?

Hi Razzleberry

All i can say is do what i do maybe. i write down any symptoms etc that are bothering /worrying me as they happen and just hand them to my doc / T at the next appointment. sorry if this is no help to you.

Personally, I would try to just be honest and discuss the symptoms bothering you and not mention any diagnosis.

And trust me, the BPD diagnosis sucks because then many therapists will not want to work with you. Therapists, doctors etc limits the clients they take with BPD because they find it "difficult."

hey im new to this and i was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and was wondering if you would like to chat. I have never done this before and was interested in what other people had to say or what they did for this.. I see a therapist every 2 weeks. my name is heather. thank youo

Diagnsis is not really that important. I wish I was never diagnosed borderline cuz it really does sucj, I've had therapists not work with me cuz I was diagnosed as borderline. Its so hard to manage like you said my moods are all over the place. Im not married but I would prolly do the same behaviors if I was married. So really dont worry too much about a diagnosis cuz really the thing is to manage the symptoms not get a diagnsis. I know they need to dx for insurance reasons cuz in the DSM there are numbers like 301.8 and the insurace companies need to know about this so yeah anyway good luck to you and now im going to sleep.

I guess the diagnosis doesn't really matter as long as I'm in treatment, right? Maybe I shouldn't focus on the name as much.

I think I'm just scared. I am now realizing that the doctors I worked with before just DID NOT LISTEN, and because of that, it made me worse not better. I'm just scared of that happening again. But I think I got a good one this time...I hope! Seemed nice enough and seemed understanding of my troubles getting help before. Hopefully I can make it work this time.

Not on any meds yet...and I think I'm happy about that. In a way, yeah, I want the 'quick fix'....but the meds really messed me up last time. Yeah, the guy I'm seeing is a Psychologist, not licensed to do meds, but I was fully expecting him to get me an appt. right then and there with a Pdoc for meds. He didn't. I think I'm happy. I don't want them pushing pills at me until I really know what's going on. If it's Bipolar, then I sure as hell shouldn't be on anti-depressants. But if it's not Bipolar...then I shouldn't really be on the bipolar meds. If that makes any sense...

And from what I read about Borderline, if that really is what I ahve...meds won't help much anyway, right?

I just need to focus on getting better. Do what I can on my own. Try to stay positive, try to focus, try to control my impulsive risky behaviors.