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#1
Sep 22, 2009, 08:56 PM
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I was triggered yesterday. I think part of my stress lately has been low level stress from my trauma. I was attacked at school in high school. Luckily I was within two months of graduating and some how made it through the end of the year. I went to a women's college so there were not a lot of guys around (no offense the wonderful guys out there). When I was working there were guys around, but at home it was just a lot of us women. Now I am back in a co-ed school environment. I did not expect it to be any specific problem. But I was totally triggered yesterday by walking into the womens' restroom and seeing the toilet seat being up from being cleaned over the weekend. I totally freaked out and couldn't go in the stall until I saw a second one and realized it was because of cleaning. I didn't realize this would be such an issue being back in a co-ed educational enviornment. I didn't have any problems (well relatively no problms) specific to going to college or working with guys at work (except for a few situations). Agh why is this happening?!?!
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#2
Sep 24, 2009, 01:21 PM
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Triggers are normal if you haven't worked through the initial trauma. Are you in therapy?
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Sep 24, 2009, 01:37 PM
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I am in T. I go today. I just started with a new T though because I moved for school so were still working on the trust issue.
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#4
Sep 24, 2009, 03:48 PM
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My experience has been that triggers are normal and can come up very unexpectedly at any time in life. Going through therapy and support groups helps a lot, and I don't get triggered nearly as often. But it still happens, out of the blue. I don't like it, but I've learned to accept it and not beat myself up when it happens.
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#5
Sep 24, 2009, 08:23 PM
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#6
Oct 01, 2009, 11:26 PM
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I'm still getting triggered at school. I hate it. It is not so much a full panic attack (except when it is), as it is a constant underlying anxiety that comes when I am at school. I don't know what to do about it. My T and I are working through the trust issues and getting there. She also knows that this is an issue that we are going to have to work through. But I just feel so awful that it had been so long since things have been this bad constantly. Why does it have to come back? Right now, why now? I finally get back to school and I worked so hard to get here. And now this happens. Why can't I get a break? Why can't anything not be overwhelmed by all this? I didn't cause this, but now I have to keep dealing with it? How is that fair? I just feel so alone. I accepted that it was going to mess up certain parts of my life (intimacy). It isn't supposed to mess up the one thing in my life that I was good at. It isn't supposed to mess up the one place I could escape as a kid from the crazyness at my house. I feel that even my escapes are being taken away from me. I just want my life back.
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#7
Oct 02, 2009, 09:43 AM
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That would be more distressing if school used to be your escape
 . You are doing the right things by being in therapy. Therapy works..........
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Oct 05, 2009, 07:46 AM
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hmm why is this happening - somthing that stands out for me is that you are starting a new school and seeing a new T - either one would be enough to trigger most people and the last one - scholol ws girls only and now you have boys too
its natural to be triggered by this - you havnt been around boys for a while and now you are - the toilet seat was up - that made your proctective part of your mind ramp up and say hey there might be men in here!!! try and do somethig relaxing every day - listen to a meditation tape - or music or take a long hot bath or shower - go for a walk to burn off the fight or flight energy that wil build up - in time (hate that word) if you dont continually beat yourself up for not beign able to get past this - you will get past this. I am glad you are seeing a T take care P7 
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#9
Oct 05, 2009, 08:04 PM
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Hi P7, Thanks for the post. I was working for three years between undergrad and grad school, so I think it is the mix of school and the guys. I just have to remember to be gentle with myself. I am riding my bike to and from school so that gives me some time to relax. I also have some other health related stuff coming up that is mixing in with this too. (not getting help when I need it). Thanks for listening. |
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