... ***TRIGGER***

trying to give someone the benefit of the doubt when triggered, when they directly went against my CLEAR and specific request where I gave CLEAR and specific reasons..... I do feel violated

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PM me if you want to talk... chat available too!

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I'm sorry you feel violated.

I don't know how I can help you because I don't know enough.

I'm here if you want to talk about it. Here or pm.

time0

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trying to give someone the benefit of the doubt when triggered, when they directly went against my CLEAR and specific request where I gave CLEAR and specific reasons..... I do feel violated

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> wow fuzzy that sound frighteningly similar to a situation in our life back at the start of summer this year.

it IS a violation. what an awful feeling, eh?

please do what you need to for your health and safety. getting over the sense of feeling violated takes time depending on what is in one's past. we hope you find healing sooner than later.

just remember that healing is on YOUR terms and that your needs take priority. giving the benefit of the doubt is kind but often can diminish the hurt one really feels. hurt is hurt. violation is violation.

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don't hesitate to PM if you need.

KD

thanks everyone........ I am having to walk a fine line with this one

experiences sometimes seem remarkably, painfully and frighteningly similar but have remarkable and ............differences too..........

Fuzzy..I am sorry you feel so badly. For what it's worth...I know the feeling too.

TGC

Fuzzy, sorry you are feeling violated--

Could it be that is was a misunderstanding? Just a thought....

The pulling back I do and the triggers I feel are all a fairly new revelation for me--- I am trying to question them... "is it a feeling that I had in the past-- and am putting those feelings onto this event?" and also "perhaps even though this event feels the same-- maybe-- it is different in some way". --- then I have been trying to see in what ways it is different -- to help me move on...

Well, not sure if that made sense to you.... I'm still not so good at expressing things... I'm so not used to it... trying though.

Please know I am thinking of you--
You can PM me anytime.

mandy

Thanks Dottie and Mandy.....

Mandy yes I think there was some misunderstanding too.... like when one person thinks they are being clear but the other person doesn't get it at the time because of their own triggered state and other reasons of miscommunication. That has happened to me in the past, and it could be a factor now too..... growl

Past triggers definitely apply too... on both sides I am sure

GGGggggggrrrrrrrrr
Fuzzy

Sorry that this happened to you dear friend.
I hope you are getting a little relief today.
((((BSB)))

Thank you dear ((((((BSB))))))

ggrrrrrrrr,
Fuzzy

(((((((((Fuzzy)))))))))) I don't know what has happened but I'm so sorry you feel violated. Hope you feel better soon. pm me if it will help.

Thank you (((((((((((((((Susan)))))))))))))))

I guess you have to lower the level of trust you had with them until they prove themselves capable of understanding you! Don't give them the benefit of the doubt if you were as clear as it can get! Some ppl's uncaring nature (by not really listening) has to be circumvented sometimes... work though this...but for YOU not them. (((fuzzy)))

Thank you (((((((((((((((Sky))))))))))))))


Fuzzy

Fuzzy,
I didn't get the whole drift of your misadventure. So I hope I don't mispeak. What I want to offer is that the simplest thought or memory can cause me to be PTSDed. Can start feeling like I'm swiming in pea soup, or my energy level suddenly drops to -5 or lower and I have to take a nap. Jane - Oz

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time0

Thank you Jane and Time0,



Fuzzy

GGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

I wish the ground would swallow me up. Not because of this trigger.... just life.

Misunderstandings.

Judgements.

Double standards.

Feelings as Facts.

A life full of triggers, snakes, wolves in sheeps clothing and daggers in my heart

f*************** it all

UGH

Bleeding,
Bear

((((((((((Fuzzy))))))))))))))) I am sorry you are experiencing what you are. I wish I could make it all go away. Please try and feel safe.

I am so sorry Fuzzy!

I don't know what is going on but you are surely having a hard time with this one. I know that when you trust someone and all you are doing is falling in a trap, it is very hard to accept, very disapointing and it hurt so much. Trust is already so hard to give and falling in another trap once more is devastating. I understand. I have been there, more then my share.

Thank you so much ((((((((((((bipolar bear))))))))))))))

Thank you ((((((((((((Time0)))))))))))) for so eloquently expressing how I am feeling. As we share the same dx you often understand me so well even though I post cryptically

Life....................

Blessings,
Fuzzy