[Lexicon78]

I didn't know where to post this so I'm putting this here. I'm really worried about one of my online friends. Her name is Shayla.

Last night her mom, who is an alcoholic and drug addict, tried to kill her. She held a gun to her head, calling her all kinds of things, and just before her mom pulled the trigger her sister pushed her to the ground, saving them both.

Her father grabbed the gun out of her mother's hand, told her he'd beat the living crap out of her if he wasn't a guy. My friend told her she wasn't a guy and started beating the crap out of her. Her father kicked out her mother, she refused to leave and everything. Eventually, though, she did leave. I'm really worried about my friend right now, for good reason.

Everybody I talk to is always telling me that not every drug user and alcoholic are not bad people, but how can I believe that when I hear this? I am very judgmental when it comes to alcohol and drugs, and see no reason why I should give these people a chance, really. I know that's harsh to say, but can you at least understand my reasoning when I hear about this kind of thing happening to the people I love?

Well, anyways, I'm very thankful for my friend's father and sister. I want to cry so badly for her but am fighting off the tears. I guess she's in good hands right now, but that doesn't make this any easier for me...or for her.

Please pray for her safety.

[JustBen]

I will most definitely pray for your friend. Not all substance abusers are bad...and certainly not all of them have done things like Shayla's mom did. I don't blame you for being worried for her. I'm glad that her dad is doing what he needs to protect the kids. Have they considered calling the police?

[(JD)]

Wanted you to know I read your post...

While it's important in a support sense to take what ppl write "at face value".. it's also important to not become personally involved to the point of it not being in your own best interest.

It might not be what your friend is doing, but remember that there are some ppl online that love to just tug at ppl's caring nature... with outrageous posts and stories. Also, remember that those who are suffering mental unwellness (such as from a bad home situation) won't always write things exactly as they are.. and things might seem much worse than IRL)

With that said, depending upon what information you do have about her IRL... you can offer (or "threaten"?) to call the police FOR her... or report any further abuse to authorities for her...

Most importantly, take care of YOU! OK?

[jennie]

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Everybody I talk to is always telling me that not every drug user and alcoholic are not bad people, but how can I believe that when I hear this? I am very judgmental when it comes to alcohol and drugs, and see no reason why I should give these people a chance, really.

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(((Lexicon78))) . . . Substance abusers/addicts are sick, have a malady. Their actions are bad. Many resort to crime to support their lifestyles.

I think you are very wise for not trusting substance abusers. Being judgmental about drugs/alcohol is okay. I also think it is important that you recognize that these users are "human." Some do get treatment and recover from their partying ways. In those few cases, trust must be re-earned again.

[Beautiful_Pain]

This sounds so familiar and scary to me =O

Sorry, that's all I can say right now {{{{Lexi}}}}