[TTUAH]

I'm so scared my beautiful partner won't get any better from her Complex PTSD

TTUAH, this is the first time I have come across your post. I haven't been able to keep up as of late. Forgive me if I am asking questions that have already been asked...

I was Dx with cPTSD 6 months ago. I suffered tremendously. Since starting talk T, I've been doing better. Some days it is two steps forward, one step back, but ... still moving forward (that is a good direction).

I still suffer and am in lots of pain (triggers), but I have gained tools and coping mechanisms with my T that help me a lot.

Please hang in there. Stay strong. It does get better! (I never in a million years thought I would start making my way up from the bottom of the barrel but I can say that it is possible I am doing it).

(do you see a T, as well? it's great, too, that you are posting here!)

Hugs to you

[Open Eyes]

TTUAH,

Your partner, who is probably really beautiful in many ways is feeling that way as well. And the truth is that your partner CAN get better and you CAN be a big part of that. But it WILL take a long time and DEDICATION to treament and LOTS OF PATIENCE AND KINDNESS AND SUPPORT.

Personally in my opinion, the best thing that can happen to a person who is struggling with PTSD where they may have suffered emotional neglect or abuse in their childhood? Is if they finally have someone who really loves them and can be there to be with them and give them what they never had, A LOVING CARING SOOTHING PRESENSE, they CAN learn to heal.

But it will take time and patience.

(((((Hugs)))
Open Eyes

[Open Eyes]

TTUAH,

The other important thing I would like to add, what I really needed in my own recovery work, is to have a constant presence through my struggle that just kept saying it is ok, be patient, it is ok. YOU cannot fix your partner, your partner needs to do this themselves. BUT, you can be such a big help by listening and listening, even though your partner may seem to be repeating themselves and their struggle MANY TIMES. No matter what, keep listening and be soothing and understanding and always reward them when they talk and even say, yes I see it you are right. They really need that as every tiny peice of seeing something a little different can cause them to want to repeat how they are struggling all over again and that need to just add that little extra piece and it can be a very small peice too. That is what the brain is doing, it is surfing and searching and trying to come up with answers. And it is very emotional and time consuming.

Oh, and be prepared for snapping and temper tantrums. That has to come out, and they may seem mad at you as well. Don't respond with anger, the anger just needs to come out, it is has often long been surpressed. There is a lot to being supportive, but you can really help.

And NEVER use any wordage that says anything like "JUST" let it pass, get over, deal, let it go, calm down, relax, nothing that says JUST as that cannot be done while in the throughs of PTSD. It is all HARD WORK.

Open Eyes

[TTUAH]

Thanks RP and again OE.

This has been long term so far, just don't think earlier diagnosis has been correct, so still looking for answers.

We are seriously considering having a comprehensive assessment completed at The Trauma Center in Massachusetts.

Very expensive but after over a decade of what we believe is misdiagnosis, we may actually get some real answers.

Here's hoping!

You guys are fantastic and your strength is unbelievable. Thank you very much for your kind words and support.

TTUAH

[Open Eyes]

(((Tutah)))),

Oh you are very welcome and the money spent in your venture will be well worth it when you get the correct diagnosis. PTSD CAN be misdiagnosed with other issues or disorders instead, and I know because that happened to me. So, if you can get this resolved and get the right therapy, it will make a HUGE difference for both of you.

Remember we are here and will be more than happy to help both of you. There is nothing wrong with your desire to help this beautiful partner you have.

(((Hugs)))
Open Eyes

[TTUAH]

Thanks so much again OE. Thanks also for saying there's nothing wrong with helping my partner, although I don't see that anyone in my position would do anything differently.

[Nammu]

It is beautiful that you are so supportive of your partner. I hope you are able to find not just a comprehensive diagnoses but treatment as well. Many of us have gotten the right diagnoses and know it fits, but that is only half the battle. I don't want to discourage you and have no idea what it is like in Australia. You may find that once you get the proper diagnoses that it is easier to get treatment than it is here in USA. Between stigma, greed and lack of resources it is hard. I do know that your partner has a great advantage in having someone beside her. Trying to recover alone is so much harder and a longer road However there may be times when you will be asked to to the hardest thing of all and step back and let her fight some battles on her own. Best of luck to both of you.

[TTUAH]

Thanks so much sidestepper