rage

I get so full of rage at times I actually scare myself....I really don't know where my limits are sometimes. I have known for a long time now that emotional pain triggers rage immediately in me...self defense mechanism....but I can't change or control the automatic switch even though I am aware of what is happening. Any advice?!
Patricia

Patricia,
I don't experience rage - I go to the extreme of avoiding it. Maybe that is something you can work on with your T. (if you have one).
Safe hugs, if that's okay
Songbird

Yes, I am a passive aggressive person. I usually let things roll off and then bottle it up and when I blow, yes I scare myself too. I did this last year when my husband forgot the date of our anniversary. The calmer side of me was able to see my overreaction but couldn't stop me from throwing his things outside and yelling until my face turned red and cursing and so on. I only do this with him, though which is so unfair, because he has never harmed or threatened to harm me in anyway. I mirror the rage that I saw my father have because it got attention and that is the way I know how to get it. Not a good way of thinking, though, I know. I'm trying, no correction, thinking of going back to therapy to get this stuff straight. That is my only suggestion. I think practice and working through your reasons for the rage will eventually help. I know that it feels like you will explode if the rage doesn't come out, but I know there are things that you can do to let that negative energy out.

My issues were being held hostage, beaten, raped etc and all it takes to trigger me is being direspected....mental and emotional abuse in my past also... so I can identify my triggers but have yet to control my reations also. i wish sometimes i could go into a padded room and be locked in and just go crazy...I just don"t know if I can release safely somehow...I am scared of losing control. thanks for sharing and if you have further advice I welcome it
Trish, hoping you the best