PTS Toolbox

Wonderful People,

Thought it might be good to post our tools on line for others to read. I know that through the many many years of T and learning and too many nights of pain that lessons have been learned along the way.

Here is one of my tools I just shared. If this helps others, I will share more. And I would LOVE to read the tools others have learned.

Wendi

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There are some things that can NOT be undone. I learned this the hard way after trying for YEARS to forget crimes done against me. And the harder I tried, the more entangled I was in them. With every pull of my memory, the ropes around my mind and soul became tighter and tighter.

Now I am at peace.

Are the memories still there? Yes.
So how am I free?

I realized that for me personally, every time I had a memory, I had to take charge of my mind and my heart. When I was in the fetal position crying my eyes out... I would have to make myself stop. This took a good amount of strength and I had to learn how to do this. Then I would consciously SHIFT my internal attention to something else. At first, it was ANYTHING else. In fact, at first, I would shift the memory away from the most painful, and I would SELECT another one that I felt was "not as bad" and I would continue to cry through the pain of my dark night.

Soon, I was able to see I could control where I focused my thoughts after I had already fallen into the memory trap. This allowed me to mentally be able to climb back out on my own.

I realized after I learned this skill of survival that I could take back my own power this way. Now the abusers where no longer in charge of me or my memory. I was FINALLY the one making the calls !!!

My therapist suggested finding a healing or peaceful symbol to focus on when I feel freaked out. Mine is the mountains, and I have a pewter keychain with the Bible verse Isaiah 40:31 and an eagle flying over a mountain. That reminds me to rise above.

RF

I know it sounds funny, but my peaceful place is Kung Fu's garden, remember that show.
I've been trhu some phisical and emotional pain that really takes the best of me away; so when I know I'm going down, I try to place myself there and ar least to get to a calmer zone.
(WPowers) Thank you for sharing!