[Alishia88]

I am really angry at my therapist. I went in this week after a few weeks away, in which I had been doing pretty well with everything, I felt.

Somehow, she made me feel very bad about things were going and pointed out what I "should" do or what was "wrong", even though I was very happy with my progress the last few months and felt "hey, this is going somewhere good."

Maybe it was that she didn´t know about the positive progresses inside and outside because I hadn´t seen her in a while, but either way, I think she should just "ask" about it, "ask" how things were going, what was good what was bad.

Instead she just went on talking and talking for 2 hours and I left feeling pretty frustrated and bad about myself

I am not really sure how this happened. But it still makes me very angry, even though she didn´t want to make me feel bad, surely. Still.

I talked to her before about please not pressuring me and that when I was ready I would do things, not before and .... well.

I just needed to get this out

[Silent_Tears_17]

Im really sorry. Sometimes therapists, though well meaning, can be very triggering and can be upsetting. They can also have ideas that do not correlate with their patients or do not work in their particular situation.
Either way, if you leave therapy feeling like that, it's probably a sign that this isn't a good therapist for you. You may want to consider looking for someone who is a better fit.

[Open Eyes]

Oh Alishia, I am sorry that happened, your therapist should have kept in pace with your ability to manage without therapy, not point out whatever she/he feels you may not be seeing where you walk away feeling distraught like that. Whether I was training a horse or teaching a child, I always made sure whatever I was teaching ended on a good note.

Sorry Alishia, aside from that, it is nice to know that you did well while you were taking a break from therapy, that "is" very positive even if your therapist did not appropriately embrace that with you, her/his failure not yours.

((Hugs))
OE

[CosmicRose]

Therapists are people too with their own issues and emotional baggage and sometimes the tables can turn without the therapist even realizing it if that makes sense. She might have just gone into the session with a "game plan" that she cooked up the night before to try a different approach with you, and obviously it didn't work. She might have been having personal issues and took it out at her work place with a client. Or you might just need to find another therapist that isn't so pushy.

[Musica91]

Alishia88,

I know how this feels because my T. does it too sometimes. Once in a while, he has really set me off.

I challenge him on this, and he has shown a lot of care and flexibility in making things right again. Part of what he tells me is that he makes mistakes - sometimes he might misunderstand - and sometimes he might even have an "off" or "bad" day himself.

Therapist are just people too. He tells me that as part of my therapy, I have to realize that people (even therapists) do make mistakes. He tells me that even so, the people you can trust are the ones who are sorry they triggered you or hurt or discouraged you - and want to make it right.

There has been a good lesson in that for me.

So I don't know if any of that helps you or not? I just hoped it would.

But HUGS to you anyway! Being triggered is a bad thing. I hope it gets better.

Sometimes being triggered isn't a bad thing, ALOT of learning can come out of it and with a therapist is the best place for this to happen.

[BLUEDOVE]

She is NOT working in your best interest,she is
working in HER best interest! A lot of THEM have
mental health problems.Your feelings are right!
No wonder you felt bad--find another with the most
important quality . . . . .Compassion!