[Corazon13]

Hello everyone,
WARNING, MAY BE A TRIGGER TO SOME.
I want to know if anyone has any advice on a certain issue that has plagued me recently.

Since my trauma two years ago, I have found it difficult to become intimate with someone. Thankfully, following my medication, I have an increased libido. It seems to be that I want it all the time. First of all, is this normal? I thought it would be backwards for me. I thought that following my trauma, I shouldn't have such a high sex drive. It seems higher than it ever has before. Another thing that I need to know is normal...

Possible trigger:

I enjoy sex to be a little rougher. Including biting, spanking, etc.

The difficulty is not with finding a partner to be intimate with, but instead, it is that I recently had a breakdown due to a trigger. Fortunately, my partner is a dear friend and he assured me that he understood my pain and offered me comfort because of him knowing my situation.

Possible trigger:

I asked him to handcuff me, but what was my trigger was that he said to "come back here and take that d*ck". It was appropriate based on the form of sex, but those words made me crumble.

I don't understand why... I like the infliction of pain, but those few words caused an eruption of mental instability. . Can anyone else explain this to me? Do you have any experience with this?

[CANDC]

Corazon, sorry you were triggered by explicit sexual talk. PTSD is a vast area that is often explored with a trained therapist in surviving trauma.

Your particular situation sounds difficult because you are putting yourself in vulnerable positions like the handcuffs. Why not disallow any restraint of motion. That can be a first step in abuse and may be triggering the abuse. Perhaps words themselves are too triggering. It sounds like the phrase he uttered could be considered abusive rather than passionate or intimate.

Here are other articles that discuss sex and PTSD.
Psych Central - Search results for Sexual triggers with ptsd

[dustydawn]

Hi Corazon13,
I can only say how sorry I am that this has happened to you.
And to please seek out therapy. I have let this run my life sense I was about 6 yrs old now at 54 and I regret it. Just kept thinking it would go away. I have been married to a good man for 17 yrs and yet I can't get over it. So please get help it just doesn't go away
DustyDawn