[inkblot]

I am still trying to avoid my neighbor so I don't have to deal with him. He is still looking for me, sliding notes under my door and knocking, hoping for me to answer. I have the TV turned down, but I wonder if he can still hear it? I don't want to make noise. I keep the lights off as much as possible. If he knows that I am home but it's dark, maybe he'll think that I am asleep. Or maybe he knows that I am trying to avoid him, but thinks that he'll try anyway. I don't want to talk to him, I don't want him to see me and ask me if I'll be his girlfriend of if I think he should go to H. I fear having to talk to him. If I knew that I could live life without his interruption to talk (or more), this would be a lot easier.

[alm15]

Hi. Wow. I have been in similar situations and it was awful. I felt like a prisoner in my own house. I imagine you're frightened to even give him a note. Maybe you can see when he's not home and just put a note on his door asking him to not contact you anymore. Tell him it feels uncomfortable. If you don't feel like you can maybe you have a friend who can do it for you. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. Good luck! Annie

[Butterfly_Faerie]

It sounds to me like it's both fear and avoidance.

Have you told him to leave you alone, I can understand the fear part to the fact that he almost seems obsessive? The avoidance is definatly understandable because you don't want to feel eyes on you ect..

I definatly think it is both.

I hope he leaves you alone, it definatly sounds like an uncomfortable situation, you almost have to put your foot down and tell him how it is even if if hurts him, no one should live like that.

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[cthonica]

hmm sounds scary. I agree with ozzie that you should ask him to leave you alone. Talking to him in person will be more effective than writing a note, but make sure you tell him while there are other people around. You could have a friend be with you for the conversation, or somewhere nearby.

You want I should kick his ***?
HA HA!

How's the neighbor situation?
J