[Kittycat2015]

School was really traumatic for me. I went to a lot of different schools because of moving and bullying, and it was really hard starting schools not knowing anyone. One of the times I moved when I was 14, i didn't know anyone and it was so scary starting a new school, I had social anxiety so was too shy to interact with anyone (and I'd been bullied at previous schools which made me confidence even worse). I didn't make any friends in the 2 years I spent at that school, and I would get panic attacks at school. It was horrible being on my own all the time, until it got to the point where I refused to go back to school and I started SH'ing. A lot of the people at that school were really horrible to me. When I would join people at lunch they would talk about me and say they hated me tagging along with them, they would leave me out and ask me why I was following them. They would whisper about me while I was there and laugh about me. It got to the point where I had to spend lunchtimes either walking around school on my own or sitting in a toilet cubicle. I now left school over 5 years ago, but it still upsets me, so I messaged a couple of the people on Facebook. I just thought I needed to let them know what they put me through and I was hoping they would have grown up and apologised. But no, this girl replied saying how ridiculous I was and need to move on, and called me an "ugly idiot". It seems unfair how I'm still suffering but she's getting on with her life, not even showing any remorse.

[Open Eyes]

I am sorry Kittycat, High School is a big challenge for many young teens. That age group is still very narcissistic and what tends to happen is individuals this age circulate and group together looking for new ways to develop their own social skills and loyalties are only important when individuals gain attention.

When you tried to interact with one of these individuals on facebook and got that response, you have learned how this individual is still a very selfish person. When people behave this way they are not the kind of people that would ever benefit you in any way because they are not empathetic, they are shallow and unfortunately many of these individuals do remain that way throughout their lives.

It is well documented that when a young teen is moved around, they do have a problem connecting with others, that is partly due to the fact that in this age group many students tend to group together and develop that established group where they don't really allow new comers to join in. Part of this also has to do with how parents group together and socialize and their children get to socializing from that group of parents.

I am so sorry you were so lonely during this time, that really was not your fault.

Often these tight knit groups are actually intimidated when they get into College because Colleges do not have the close knit intimacy that High Schools have so that power group is not very powerful as was the case in High School.

Often what individuals that were not oh so popular in High School have is that they already have learned how to be more independent, so it's not so traumatic to them and because so many are in a new environment, it is often easier to make friends too as it is not so much of a who knows who like it is in High School.

[ThunderGoddess]

Kittycat I am so sorry you had to go through that you and people all over the world deserve to be treated with way more respect. It never ceases to make me angry hearing about how inhumane people can be to each other. I was stalked and harassed for 4 years on social media and I doubt those girls are off doing better things with their lives at this point either.

What helps me cope with that abuse is knowing that I would never stoop to that level and that makes me feel really good knowing I am deep down a good person that wouldn't hurt other people purposely like that. I go on and off of wanting to confront these people but mean people usually stay mean people forever. Keep your distance and know her judgements about you mean nothing to anyone but herself, meaning her opinion literally does not matter it does not define who you are and I can bet she doesn't even know who you really are to begin with.

[doyoutrustme]

kids who were jerks in high school are likely jerks when they "grow up. "

don't give them the power of affecting you now. they're past their prime and they know it!

and last but not least- unfriend them!

[ChipperMonkey]

I'm sorry you didn't get the response that you wanted....

BUT, I think you were VERY brave to stand up for yourself and confront these people! You were strong and asserted yourself and you let them know that their behavior was unacceptable. Kudos to you!

Unfortunately it takes certain people awhile to grow up and mature. Some people never get there. I still have my little irks about people from my past (middle and high school). Part of me knows that part of it was that these people were immature and ignorant in understanding my struggles, but the other part of me knows that their reactions were downright cruel.

I hope that you can get some sort of closure and move forward.

[Quarter life]

Yes school can be a dreadful experience for many...the peer pressure and bullying is just awful for those on the recieving end. Funnily enough ...When I was in my mid 30's I visited my home town and I bumped into 3 nasty girls who did the same thing to me in my adolescent years...amazingly they were still friends, living in the same town we grew up in...they proceeded to speak to me in the same beligerant disgusting manner. I just said 'You're kidding me?...you are still living in this backwater?....then laughed and walked away.

I now know that it was them that had the debilitating self esteem issues..the very fact that they have stayed frozen in time without moving forward and experiencing the world. My advice is to forget those people kittycat...as it is so true that the best revenge is living well....they simply aren't worth your time.

[Kittycat2015]

Thank you so much everyone for your supportive replies.

[jessyJ]

I can't believe you have done the same thing I did. I was very overwhelmed and sad at the time. I was moving again from the city I lived in, so I decided to send one of the bully's a MSG on FB. Now that I look back at it, I wish I didn't. At first the guy told me it doesn't matter what he did, and it's all in the past. I must admit, I was very angry by his replies because for me who suffered the end of the physical & mental bullying was not okay at all. I have acted with my anger, and yes, I was angry. I was angry for being scared to leave my house because of what they did. I sent him MSG's again until he apologized. (His apology did not make me feel better honestly).

After some time, he send me a MSG telling me how crazy I am, and some other insults. So afterwards, I knew that what I did wasn't good. Not for me, or him. I still regret harassing him online honestly. Even though he bullies me physically so many times, it only made me feel so guilty for what happened.

From this, I knew that the only way I could live in just move on. Forget about it all, and honestly, since I'm suffering from PTSD, it does get hard to move on.

I have to thank you for posting this because it's good to know I'm not the only one who wanted a closure to what happened. Sometimes, we just need someone who cares, and it's very hard to see those who does when we are so focused on our pasts.

[Pastel Kitten]

I'm sorry you had such a terrible high school experience. I can relate in some ways.
My brother and I were home schooled by our mother since kindergarten, but at age 13 (11 for my brother) she abandoned us which resulted in divorce and the inability for either of us to continue home school.
We were put into public school in the middle of the year, which resulted in bullying on both of our ends, just for being the new kids.
Despite what a lot of people might think about homeschoolers, my brother and I were very social and had many friends who were also home schoolers.
We were not able to hang out with them anymore and these new kids at public school were vicious, so we were mostly on our own.

Throughout high school I received minor bullying, but primarily isolation. Some kids were alright, but most would leave me out of everything and I was even told to **** off at lunch one year, so I gave up and stopped eating lunch altogether.
I'd hide in the library till class started again.
I'd get so envious hearing what amazing things everyone in my classes had to look forward to with each other, while I was left out.
I came to realize that these people were simply not worth my time whatsoever. They were shallow, stuck up, and just plain ignorant.

I'm really sorry to hear that you were treated so badly by similar people. I have never tried to contact any of them again, because I know for a fact that most of these people will never change.

[Mrs. Mania]

I found a girl who bullied me in junior high on fb. I really let her have it. She didn't respond which didn't bother me a bit. I didn't go into it wanting an apology, although I wondered how I would respond if she did. I just needed to get it off my chest. I felt wonderful! Except that for awhile her picture kept popping up as a potential friend

[RavensPOE]

Originally Posted by Kittycat2015

School was really traumatic for me. I went to a lot of different schools because of moving and bullying, and it was really hard starting schools not knowing anyone. One of the times I moved when I was 14, i didn't know anyone and it was so scary starting a new school, I had social anxiety so was too shy to interact with anyone (and I'd been bullied at previous schools which made me confidence even worse). I didn't make any friends in the 2 years I spent at that school, and I would get panic attacks at school. It was horrible being on my own all the time, until it got to the point where I refused to go back to school and I started SH'ing. A lot of the people at that school were really horrible to me. When I would join people at lunch they would talk about me and say they hated me tagging along with them, they would leave me out and ask me why I was following them. They would whisper about me while I was there and laugh about me. It got to the point where I had to spend lunchtimes either walking around school on my own or sitting in a toilet cubicle. I now left school over 5 years ago, but it still upsets me, so I messaged a couple of the people on Facebook. I just thought I needed to let them know what they put me through and I was hoping they would have grown up and apologised. But no, this girl replied saying how ridiculous I was and need to move on, and called me an "ugly idiot". It seems unfair how I'm still suffering but she's getting on with her life, not even showing any remorse.

I am a Professor of Art who was molested and raped as child (from age 3-10) by a male physician. It is the first, real memory that I have...what he was doing to me in his office. I have suffered from PTSD attacks my whole life.

I have always struggled to fit in with normal socializing. People innocently trigger me, and I end up trying to fight anxiety attacks for the next 2 days.

While I have control in my classroom over my students--perhaps it's one of the reasons why I chose the profession--because I never felt in control as a student. I was picked on and bullied.

I'm 44 now. I am on a year sabbatical from college, and am over in Israel during my year off--getting a Master's Degree in Holocaust Education. Only a handful of students in my graduating class ever went on to pursue or do anything after they got their Bachelor's degree. I'm the only student in that graduating class who became a professor, and is now getting my 4th degree/ post grad.

These people who picked on you?
YOUR BEST REVENGE...is YOUR SUCCESS.

They all need a hobby..and picking on you or me?..ISN'T IT!

While they are still learning how to grow up in the adult world--
you keep pounding away at the road of success.
The next time you see them?...You ask them how their bullying antics
and humdrum lifestyle is currently working out for them.

I believe in Karma.

Heads up.