[Fightharder]

I have been suffering work place bulling for almost two years
I would to know how I can recover my life, the person I used to be, heal my family who is passing with me this difficult situation
I still work in that place and from Monday to Friday I see her every day ... But I don't want to suffer more although the situation is not resolved yet

[Skeezyks]

Hello again, Fightharder: I believe I just replied to another of your posts. From having read your two posts, it sounds like you have been seriously traumatized by the bullying you have endured at work. Healing from this kind of experience can be a challenge. Is there any possibility of you seeing a therapist? From my perspective, there is no simple answer here. You need to have someone, presumably a professional, with whom you can process what has happened to you. This takes time, as well as effort. Plus, you need to learn ways to help your family heal because they have also been affected.

Beyond that, perhaps it's time to start looking for another job, if that is a possibility. From what you've written, it doesn't sound as though your situation at work is likely to improve much any time soon.

I'm pretty sure these are not the kinds of suggestions you had in mind. But I think the reality of the situation may be that there simply are no simple solutions. Realistically, you may not be able to recover the life you had... the person you used to be. But you can move on from where you are now become an even better person. I wish both you & your family well... (PLease keep posting here on PC, as well...)

[jtesta33]

I'm with you there. I've always been different and maybe a little smarter than everyone else. This has only led to isolation.

They key, maybe, is to try to be your own best friend, and to keep sharing your pain. You are definitely not alone!

hi fightharder,

welcome to pc, keep fiighting and ignoring those people. you deserve good people around you. i hope you have some of those outside work. if not, pc has a lovely community

[Fightharder]

Thanks a lot for all your kindly comments
Yes is hard to rebuild your self from things like this, and I complete agree this person isn't even better in work than me, but has protection and with this power ...
My housban really has been a hard time with me like passing over this, as he told me sometimes he is my punching bag, and that's unfair. Ringo (my dog ) is like he is knowing that something is wrong with me because he behaves like trying to give some comfort .... I have learned how to meditate, that's helping me to don't ruminating in negative toghts

I will take some help for some advisor who I think can help me to re build my self because all this make me a very negative person

All this took a lot of energies from me ... I fell tired and still problems to sleep. I already started a job search ... But if my severance come first I guess I will take sometime to get some rest ...

Definitely always helps listen that I'm not alone as I don't have many friends ...

Thanks God that are still nice people in the world

Blessings

[Open Eyes]

((Fightharder)),

I am so sorry you have been exposed to an individual that practices work place bullying.
I think what will help you is to learn what a bully is really saying when they do choose to bully. These individuals tend to bully others because they are lacking so much themselves that they need to find others to take it out on. These individuals pick out others to frighten because it's the only way they themselves gain a sense of "control and self worth". These individuals are severely handicapped and sadly, the only way they can have any sense of self worth is to have others "fear them".

http://www.bullyonline.org/stress/ptsd.htm

"Bully in sight" which is the name of a book identifies bullying as the common denominator of harassment, discrimination, prejudice, abuse, conflict and violence, and describes the principal perpetrator of psychological violence, the serial bully.Bully in sight is one of the first books to describe psychiatric injury and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder resulting from long-term bullying.

[Fightharder]

Yes id ver y traumatic
For the rest of the people you work ( except some few ),you "smell like problems ", so they evoid you
Those who are the exception, cannot believe what is happening because is obvious and as those few are close to me, they desapointed that the company hot line uncover this
But as I know that I'm not lying ... I will use external resources as a lawyer for example .. What I have read about this is that you need to stop this happening because theaw kind of people if don't see consequences they will do over and over the same
And I also read that I need to start this process of rebuild my self trading to grow my self from this as if this at some point make me stronger ( I'm not there ), but is a good way have a goal to pull my self from this swamp from this whole that I have been. Is has been hard and almost feel the damage in the loss of energy and in my health ...

[nicoleflynn]

TheVerbally Abusive Relationship saved my life. xo

[Fightharder]

Thank you !
I really appreciate your notes