[Butterfly_Faerie]

<font color=blue>I had my session today with my psychiatrist. I told her about telling my BF about past issues regarding the abuse. I didn't go into details but I wanted him to know how far I came, he doesn't see it, but he is not me.

I told him how I sometimes got triggered by him, I wanted to let him know, even though it hasn't happened in awhile.

He said at one point to get over it , and I told him it's not that easy, and that it's hard for him to understand any of it, because he never went through abuse and rape, and for that matter anxiety and depression to the extent that I get it.

He grabbed onto my arm and led me out to the back deck and he asked me if I triggered him. At first I thought this was weird, I thought maybe he was trying to trigger me. So I asked him that, and he said no.

I brought this up to my psychiatrist, and she said good for him. I asked her why? She said he's understanding, he asked you if you got triggered, because he doesn't want to trigger you ... I nodded. I can see that now but at the time I was weary about it cause it was a tight grip.

Otherwise the session today was very uplifting and postive. She said that i've come along way in a year with my out look on all 3 topics. That I understand it now, and can help people.

I brought it up to her that someone on this board (i think) said to me, why don't you write a book?

I think I will, whether or not it gets published, that's not important.

I have so much postive energy, and I just want to help everyone.

Well that is what happened today, I know there is likely more, but this is enough.

What do you guys think?</font color=blue>

<font color=red>~Sundance~</font color=red>

<font color=blue>"Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business."</font color=blue>

<font color=black>Norman Vincent Peale</font color=black>

[wisewoman]

I think you are very brave to speak with your bfriend that way. It must be better to start sharing it. I'm glad you are feeling positive and able to reach out. I hope you continue to have this great energy.

[Butterfly_Faerie]

It took alot of time to be able to go out and talk about it.

Whenever I talk about this I talk really fast, almost like I want to purge it out really quickly, to get it out of me.

Once you get a better understanding with about it and heal yourself it will get easier to talk about it.

<font color=red>~Sundance~</font color=red>

<font color=blue>"Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business."</font color=blue>

<font color=black>Norman Vincent Peale</font color=black>

((((((((((SUNDANCE))))))))))
WOW! Sounds like you made some big steps in your journey.
Good For You!
Blessings,
Jon

[(JD)]

Good for you.

In the beginning of the post you said your bf did trigger you, though not recently... but told your shrink he doesn't? I'm confused. Anyway, what did you tell your bf?

Sometimes sessions go really well, and we ride high for a while, then come back to "reality" (which might not be reality, but never the less..) and feel terrible. I hope you continue to feel good about your progress.

<font color=blue> meditation is a true way to connect to the Source </font color=blue>

[alm15]

Good for you, Sundance. I know it can be hard to tell the people we love about our pasts. The thing about him grabbing your arm and asking if he was triggering you bothers me a little. It just seems kind of strange. I'm glad you had the courage to talk to him and your therapist. I'm also glad you're feeling good. I love when people share about their triumphs on here. It always lifts my spirits to think of you happy. Take care! Annie

[Butterfly_Faerie]

Hey Skybark, sorry for the confusion.

My boyfriend has triggered me in the past, in the last 3 years he has, but i've never mentioned it to him. My psychiatrist told me to let him keep doing a certain touch that triggered to know it was safe and that wouldn't be a trigger anymore, did that make sense?

I told him recently that he has triggered me, and when he grabbed my arm to lead me outside to the back deck, he asked if he did this time. I got defensive and asked him, why are you trying too? And he said no.

When I mentioned this to my Psychiatrist she told me it was a postive thing that he asked that, because he doesn't want to trigger. This all happened about a week ago because for some reason I was talking about the past with him.


<font color=red>~Sundance~</font color=red>

<font color=blue>"Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business."</font color=blue>

<font color=black>Norman Vincent Peale</font color=black>

[Butterfly_Faerie]

((alm)))

I was at first worried about it too, but really he has never shown violence to me. I've seen him get rattled up before, but not because of me.

I thought the same way you did about the grabbing arm bit. But what my psychiatrist said did make sense. He was asking me. I asked him if he meant to trigger me, he said no. SO i'm ok with that, and it didn't really trigger me, if it did it wasn't a major one. But he asked, probably because we did talk about this prior and I did tell him that he as triggered me in the past, so I think he was just making sure that he was not doing that.

<font color=red>~Sundance~</font color=red>

<font color=blue>"Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business."</font color=blue>

<font color=black>Norman Vincent Peale</font color=black>