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Mar 31, 2008, 11:09 PM
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I've been struggling with SIB since I was a teenager. I'm having problems with hiding the marks from my children. I hate lying to them, but its not like I can tell them that mommmy cuts and burns herself, because she can't cope with life. I'm in traditional talk therapy and I've been through a trauma vitims group where we learned grounding and coping skills. Its still a struggle everyday. I'm not really sure how to proceed anymore, if anyone has any suggestions, I'd love to hear them.
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Apr 01, 2008, 12:10 AM
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Well, for starters, you can hang out with us in the Self injury room - we're a welcoming crowd that seems to be getting fairly close knit.
I'm sorry you're struggling so much! Kiya
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Apr 11, 2008, 11:29 AM
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This was a great cause of shame for me also to think my family would see.
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Apr 11, 2008, 06:32 PM
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I have done this for many years, but I am working hard on growing out of it as a coping mechanism. Im very ashamed of the marks I have made. At the same time, when it gets bad in my head, when the memories come, I know that self-harming would make it stop. I could be peaceful and not hurt.
I am mostly focusing on trying other ways to get through the feelings. I try to take care of myself--manicures, pedicures that I give myself to take up lots of time and energy. I draw and write in my journal a lot. I meditate. Nothing is "as good" as the self-harm, but a combination of things can get close. |
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Apr 11, 2008, 09:36 PM
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Yes, it is a coping mechanism. If you are truly wishing to replace it with an equivalent coping mechanism, you are going to be able to do that.
 Trauma can make you want to numb, or if numb want to feel real. SIB is often used for those reasons. Self harming behavior works either way because of the mind-set one falls into while doing the behavior. Since you (as others) already have that control, it is possible to find that mind-set without the injurious behavior. Try to recreate the feelings and thoughts you get when you accomplish the task, and link them to something else that is non-harming. Using a marble to roll between your fingers as a self calming coping mechanism works for many, but find something that is relevant for you. Some have begun to withdraw from the harming aspect by using a bold red marker, or writing on themselves instead, for instance for cutting. Good wishes.
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