Need support right now

I know I have been pretty irregular in coming here, but I have been having alof of difficulties. I also know it is all just beginning. I ask you all if you could give me a little support right now because May is nearing. for those of you who do not know this, I was severely sexually assaulted last May which almost took my life. I am trying to make it through the first anniversary and I am trying not to fall completely apart even though I am almost there. I have had to move back into assisted living and well things just seem to be completely piling up. I don't know what to do. I guess I just really am asking if any of you could send me a pm or post here every once in awhile just to help me get through. I would really appreciate any support I get and I am glad that I have PC to come to when I need support. Thank you.

Jennifer

sorry things are rough for you right now. hope you keep coming here for support, i for one will keep you in my thoughts and heart. i hope you also have some irl support to help you through this.

((((Jennifer))))

((((((((((((jennifer1084)))))))))))))))))
Anniversaries can be so hard, I know because I am struggling with an upcoming anniversary too. I am sorry you are having such a hard time right now, I am keeping you in my thoughts.

(((Jennifer)))) I'm glad you return to PC when you need real support.

It is "normal" to have stronger feelings at the anniversary times...but they can diminish over time too.

Since you are already mindful of it's approach, it is a good time to plan those days around it.
Don't schedule anything out of the ordinary that would cause more stress.
Do plan something that will keep your mind busy and off the event, if you can.
It doesn't matter whether you stay home, or go to the movies for the day, do what feels comfortable and safe.
If the best you can do is stay in bed and pamper yourself and not give a whip about the rest of the world, ok...just try to keep your mind occupied, and when you find yourself ruminating back over and over the event, work at stopping those thoughts. (There's nothing there for you, hon.)



The goal is (for the future) to not feel the effects of that day, as it is in the past, and today is the present... each year work at not recognizing the date...

Good wishes.

Thank you so much, I am trying to get through this the best I can. I do have a good support team in place, with 2 therapists and others. But the thing is, what do I do in the evening when I have none of them? That is where I am stuck. I really have no positive friends. Not ones that will build me up, only tear me down and try to make me feel bad. But I will try my best to continue on the right path.

Jennifer

Thank you really, it means alot to me to see that people are willing to support others in times of difficulty. I hope you are dealing well with your anniversary. For me, this is my first anniversary of this event, it has been really rough and it hadn't even happened until May and I'm struggling already.

Thanks again

Jennifer

Thank you sky, very helpful post. I am trying these things and will continue toi do my best at doing so. The hard thing is I am so depressed right now as well that it makes it difficult to really do much. I will continue to try to get through all of this. One thing that is difficult is I have been havivng these flashbacks, major ones, ones that go on contiuously for several minutes, sometimes hours. These also have had physical sensations accompanying them as well. thank you again for the support and the advice. I do really appreciate it.'

Jennifer

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But the thing is, what do I do in the evening when I have none of them?

Jennifer

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you come to pc and let us support you

(((Jennifer1084)))

Anniversaries are rough.
I somehow made it through mine..I almost locked myself in the frezzer at work though. Every July is hard..I can't drive and I avoid the spot where the car accident was. I'm sending lots of support you way and I know you can make it!!
hugs

Here for you as long as you need it. I am so sorry that it's going to be so tough for you, but you can get thru this.



BJ