[Mouse_]

Last night my 15yr old daughter suddenly said at 7.30 that her boyfriend wants her to go meet him at the station as he was on his way round...just a simple thing, but I begun to feel terror, why now, why suddenly has he decided to come around, why does he want her to meet him half way, is a gang after him? will they then seek revenge against my daughter for being his girlfriend...I found myself listening to what they were saying when he arrived...my stomach and heart in turmoil....I went to work this morning feeling in a very bad place, a place where you are fighting for survial and nothing in the world around you is visible, only your fear...

I came home from work early because I couldnt continue and my daughter woke up and come down stairs and I started questioning her. She screwed her browl up and said, mum james just came around, what do you mean you heard me say, "what you going to do about it?" she said you sure you never dreamt it? I said, you sure his not in trouble? no ones after him? she looked at me even more confused and said "no mum, you must have dreamt it" I didnt dream it, but I know I was feeling it.

This has happened before and T says its coming from inside me...but I believed it, it scared me, and now its like, well ok, perhaps this time is ok, but what about next time, SIGH!!!

Does this happen to anyone else? you imagine something awful, but what triggered it? I dont know...I use to think this daugther was anorexic when there was no evidence to prove it, T said, why do you think she is? I said, I dunno I just think it, and I use to check the bin after dinner to see if she had thrown it away...am I Mad? I don;t like this, what is it.

[gimmeice]

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I experience those kind of feelings too, I know it can be quite disturbing because it seems so real, like the feeling must be true. You are not going mad, trauma effects the way we see situations, I think that this way of thinking is a self protecting type of thing. If you see all these things that could go wrong the thinking is maybe you can prevent it or at least that is how it works for me. Sorry I have no idea how to put a stop to such things.

[phoenix7]

yes i have done this too - I think its called catastrophising - i cant say any more than that i am low on words today - but you are not alone - andif you're crazy move over and make room for me and a lot of others - hang in there - things can get better talk to your T if you have one and see what they can suggest P7

[skeksi]

Mouse, you're not alone, I do this, too. These fears are hard for me to accept. I think they show how little I trust in the world, how much I expect the worst case scenario to happen at any moment.

[skymonk]

Phoenix said it right, sounds like Catastrophizing. I do this all of the time&no one can convince me different when I'm thinking the worst will happen. I am an awful pessimist-I can't shake the thought that if you expect the worst it will be really rewarding when I find out I worried or got upset over something that didn't turn out so bad. That doesn't help&I know it doesn't but I keep doing it. I tend to get really paranoid when I feel like this too.

[Mouse_]

Originally Posted by gimmeice

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I experience those kind of feelings too, I know it can be quite disturbing because it seems so real, like the feeling must be true. .

Gimmieice, the above thing you said stuck with me and Ii've used it every moment since I read it, THANK YOU!