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I must be getting better. All the time my emdr t has spent talking to me about men in general and stuff. I used to think that I could never be married never have a boyfriend because men hurt you even if they didnt want to they just had to they had needs. My emdr T told me no its not true and more details that i dont need to go into. I never thought I would ever want to have a relationship. She told me that men can be sensative and they care and they love and they dont have to stink they can smell like soap like her husband. I have been thinking maybe I want to try. I want a boyfriend maybe that I could love and he could love me and it would be nice. I never ever ever pictured a man caring deeply about anything just being yucky mean and hurtul (sorry for the guys reading this) but to know that they can love you and care for you and protect you and smell like soap not chili or beer and they dont all spit. Its so weird and I actually am thinking about dating. I mean real dating like dinner and stuff and talking to a man about stuff. I am dizzy with this whole new look at life and men in general. I am going to go slow and slow and slow but to even think that maybe on day I could be married and love my husband and be loved by him is like seeing the earth from space.
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Wow MINIME thats great!
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Soooooooooooooooooooo awesome Minime!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Just keep in mind men are as different as women can be. I am so happy for you and some can smell good too like soap, but sometimes they can smell good, just their smell. That is one thing about my DH that I feel in love with, his smell. And no I am talking about anything artificial, just his "smell" of his skin. |
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Its so weird to think about this. Its so weird. I never ever ever ever ever ever imagined I would want this. In fact 9 months ago when I had my intake for therapy a student was starting it and he was a guy and i froze and i couldnt talk and he kept saying you have to talk to me you have to talk to me and I froze and he got th intake coordinator to come in and do the intake and she is my emdr T now. Its just so weird. It took someone I could trust and ask all my questions and have simple things eplained to me. Its just weird. I am looking towards the future and maybe i could be a wife and be loved by a man who smells good.
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Mini, I don't know if this would apply to you or not but many of us who grew up around dysfunctional people are intimidated when we start getting around healthy people. It can make us take a really good look at ourselves and if our self esteem is low we feel it intensely around healthy people. (Dysfunctional people don't see others so we can hide out in plain sight. Healthy people look at you and see you). This can be overcome. It might not even apply to you, I just wanted to give you a head's up to save you some anguish.
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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((minime))
Yes, there are definitely good men out there. You don't have to nor do you deserve to be with a crummy guy. And I agree with the poster who said that he can just naturally smell good...my husband is that way. He is all I ever wanted and more. You can find real love, and you deserve it. ![]()
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-Helen Keller "Risk! Risk anything! Care no more for the opinions of others, for those voices. Do the hardest thing on earth for you. Act for yourself. Face the truth." -Katherine Mansfield |
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I am going to go on a date in a couple of days. Its a guy that is my aunts landlords ex son in law and his in laws think that he is so awesome. So we will see
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How exciting! Please let us know how it goes!
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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wow thats great MIMINE - remember to take it slow - I wish you sunshine and roses!
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