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Feb 18, 2009, 12:19 PM
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I was talking with my boyfriend this morning, And some things came up about me always saying I'm sorry.. That I say I'm sorry about everything...
I had told him that I didn't know why I said i was sorry about things. And we talked about how I do feel sorry when bad things happen.. even if its not my fault.. We talk about when we were growning up.. and I told him that I remember getting into a fight in high school.. and how after the fight was over.. I looked at the girl and felt bad because i had beat her up.. He started laughing. And said what were you going to do let her beat you up. But the point i'm trying to make is why do I always feel bad, or guilty about things even when its not my fault? Or about hurting someone? Hope someone can answer this? 
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Feb 18, 2009, 12:43 PM
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Maybe this might be an answer? Young children think that the world revolves around them, that everything that happens has something to do with them (they think that they caused their parent's divorce for example). Folks like us here didn't develop emotionally. Yes, our physical bodies are older but emotionally, because of our environment while growing up, we didn't get beyond 4 or 5 or something. So without emotional development you might still think that the world revolves around you and that everything is your fault????????????
Good news is that you can continue on with your emotional development now and let the emotional development catch up with your actual age......
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Feb 18, 2009, 03:12 PM
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(((Corine))))))) I think ((sannah))) has some of it right , ALso maybe all correct for some. wow I hope this is coming out right
I do know it stems from childhood as she said. It also i think becomes habit forming. I know i said it all the time when I was young. That was to get what ever was going on to stop. I still do it now at times. Sometimes to make things end. But sometimes I have done something i may need to say sorry for. ((sannah )))) is right we all can grow  I hope that helped muffy |
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Feb 18, 2009, 04:45 PM
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I take personal responsibility for everything. Whether I'm there or not, I'll take the blame and the punishment. I don't know why. I just do it. Been doing it since I was a child.
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Feb 18, 2009, 08:11 PM
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Feb 18, 2009, 08:13 PM
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Feb 18, 2009, 08:13 PM
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Feb 18, 2009, 08:15 PM
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yw ((Corine)))))))))))) take care of you
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Feb 18, 2009, 08:17 PM
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step by step.. thanks again (((((Muffy))))) |
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