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May 14, 2009, 09:31 PM
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I was abandoned when I was little noone was there. I had horrible things happen to me. My dad died when I was 7. I was a really talented child but noone really cared I was a perfectionist and excelled at everything.
My mom has pointed out to me she doesn't remember any instraments I played. Tonight at my daughters concert she remembered that I cried every time I watched puff the magic dragon. Will someone help me here!!!!!!I mean really puff the magic dragon. I felt sick. All of those horrible things, and she remembers puff the fn magic dragon. My god!!!! |
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May 14, 2009, 10:15 PM
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 Sorry there isn't much I can do... |
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May 15, 2009, 02:35 AM
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Yup, we've got the same kind of mother. Mine only remembers good stuff - usually concerning her and how good she's been to her children and everyone else. Her memories don't match my memories at all.
  I tried telling her about things I remembered, she told me I was mistaken, or lying or crazy. Just a word of caution if you plan on trying to tell her your reality, your memories of your childhood. Take care of yourself, you mother may never be able to do that for you.
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 I'd rather have a visit, note or pretty picture than an "I'll say a prayer" or a "god bless you." Doesn't make me feel better, no meaning to me for sure. Can't stop you from praying and blessing me, and if that makes you feel better feel free.  But keep it to yourself please, don't tell me. And let's all respect each other's feelings. With kindness, support and "sweet dreamings." 
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May 15, 2009, 02:49 AM
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Isnt it amazing how mothers have a different perception on our memories. One memory that pops into my mind was when my little sister had done something wrong and i got the blame for it, my mother hit me i tried to run to my room and i fell near my door my mnother then starting kicking the hell out of me i was begging her to stop. I mentioned this to my mother only a few weeks ago she laughed and said whatever i hit you once and gave you a little kick on the bum because you hit your sister. ******** as if i wouldnt remember ht i got the hell kicked out of me and i still remember it clearly as though ht happend 5minutes ago!
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May 15, 2009, 05:36 AM
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 to all on this thread - yes memory seems to be subjective doesnt it
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Its not how many times you fall down that counts  its how many times you get back up!  (Thanks to fenrir for my Picture  )When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. by Patrick Overton, author and poet |
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May 15, 2009, 08:46 AM
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My mom has said things that made my jaw drop. Some people make up their reality to fit their mental and emotional needs. Reality means nothing to them. I got better by accepting the way that my mom was and not needing anything from her because you sure as heck can't get orange juice from an apple. Your own healing has to go along with this plan also.
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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May 15, 2009, 10:00 AM
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(((((Rachie)))))
all of us.
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I'd rather have a visit, note or pretty picture than an "I'll say a prayer" or a "god bless you." Doesn't make me feel better, no meaning to me for sure. Can't stop you from praying and blessing me, and if that makes you feel better feel free. But keep it to yourself please, don't tell me. And let's all respect each other's feelings. With kindness, support and "sweet dreamings."
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May 15, 2009, 10:39 AM
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It sucks when they make us question our own memories. I have very different ones than my mom as well and it drives me up a wall!! Why can they not admit they're not perfect and maybe made some mistakes. Owning up to it would make me feel better, would it you? If your mom's or dad's owned up to it would it ease the pain? I think it would for me but I didn't have the tramua that you had to endure. ~hugs~
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 ~Bearchic34~Loving wife of TheLionKingLives (LK) & mother of 4 amazing children and 1 that flies with the Angels "Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart." |
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May 18, 2009, 04:02 AM
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How are you Tifferrific?
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Its not how many times you fall down that counts its how many times you get back up! (Thanks to fenrir for my Picture )When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. by Patrick Overton, author and poet |
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May 20, 2009, 01:23 AM
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((((((Tifferrific))))))
Sending gentle and caring hugs to you, I understand how this feels, and how frustrating it is you are not alone |
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