[Nikki57]

I didn't know whether to put this here or in anxiety, since I have two questions.
I used to be able to go out with friends, have a few drinks, & just hang out & have a good time. This was awhile ago, but I was still on the Paxil. (I am currently on 60mg of Paxil.) But now the thought of going out with friends sends me into little fits of anxiety. I can't handle being trapped in a car & if I go out with them then I am constantly making sure I am next to the bathroom in case I throw up. I seem to have a horrible fear of that, throwing up in front of friends.
So, what I want to know is, is this normal? Am I going to always be like this now that I have anxiety & depression? Or is my medicine just not cutting it anymore? I want my life back! I've seen some people take about how they Paxil with something else (i.e. Wellbutrin), does anyone here do that & if so, what kinds?
Thank you!

[mel80]

nikkie wat is "normal" anyway ?i hope u find answers sorry could not help more

[Elana05]

Originally Posted by Nikki57

I want my life back!

Hi Nikki57,

I think anything that makes you feel this way is a reason to keep seeking new answers in medications and in therapy. Having lived with severe anxiety, I know how debilitating it is. My own response would be, keep looking for answers! It sounds like these issues are really interfering with your life and your ability to find connection and basic pleasure from it.
But as for what "normal" is? Who knows - humans are very complicated, life is complicated. For someone who has to a use prosthetic leg or arm, is it "normal"? It just is what it is. It is what helps this person with their quality of life. Medications and therapy do the same, they help us to get back to that point where we feel connected to life. Keep searching... You deserve to feel relatively at ease instead of held back by anxiety or depression. Sending many supportive thoughts your way.

Elana

[Perna]

We always have to move toward what we want or we can slide toward places we may not want. If you want to be able to go out with friends; you have to do that, even if it is sometimes difficult or uncomfortable.

We can't "stay" anywhere, but we can be centered (like those clown balloons you can't knock over?); if we try to stay a certain way instead of working to be centered wherever we are, we'll slip further away from center/"normal" because the current of life will still be pulling on us and we'll be concentrating on that instead of our actions in our own little Self boat.

Pull on them oars and go out with friends. I wouldn't drink while you're out; that can make Paxil's side effects worse http://www.paxiloral.com/paxilandalcohol.html and make your "good time" even harder to achieve.