sex and antidepressions

I just posted this to the depression column but perhaps it belonged here. Is there a medication for women I can take to enable me to function normally during sex? I take Lexapro and Xanax and Seroquel but even before these the depression has always gotten in the way of sexual relations and I have never had an orgasm during sexual intercourse. I have been married to my husband for 35 years and am tired of pretending. Can anyone help?

have you ever used a vibrator alone?.....it takes practice, but orgasm can be reached....with patience....have you talked to your husband about this? he may be able to help you, if he knows your true situation. xoxoxo pat

Sometimes a vibrator works, sometimes it does not. No, I have not told my husband. It would make him feel bad and I do not want to do that. I would rather suffer myself than have him feel that he is not adequate to make me feel good when it is, in fact, my problem and not his.

Maya - a few of us answered in your other post as well. "Function normally" is a very broad term. What is preventing you from having an orgasm during intercourse is not necessarily psychological or your brain chemistry. It could very well be the way you are physically... arranged. It would be worth a trip to the ob-gyn, but I just want your expectations to be realistic - many, many women are in your same situation. My nonprofessional opinion is that even if there was a medication for it, it doesn't seem like something that I would want for a long-term solution.

Aside from agreeing with LMo, I'd talk to your doctor about a drug called cyproheptidine, which can mitigate the anorgasmia caused by SSRIs like Lexapro. It's an old anti-histimine that blocks the effects of the SSRI long enough for an orgasm, although it doesn't work for everyone.

But the sad truth is that intercourse is usually the least likely method to bring on a female orgasm. Seems like bad planning, huh? You might talk to your doctor, or talk to your husband and see if he'd be willing to see a sex therapist with you a few times.

I'm sorry you're not enjoying it, and hope things get better.

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Sad and I agree. Wonder why it's like that?

I wasn't sure, Maya, if you were asking for a recommendation for an anti-depressant that wouldn't suppress your sexuality. I have been on Zoloft for approximately 15 years and never had any decrease in desire.

The other posters have done a great job of addressing other issues.

Good luck with that...it can be frustrating.