[Tangerine87]

Like went to see a pdoc and I didn't really like him. He doesn't seem to be a good fit for me. I got this pdoc from my therapist but I didn't like him. Dunno what to do bc I paid $365 for first visit. I also don't have another referral. This pdoc specializes in kids, not adults but he was willing to see me bc of the referral. What do I do please help?

[kaliope]

well just because you had the referral, doesn't mean you have to see him. I would look up other pdocs. or talk to your t and tell him/her that it wasn't a good fit and does he/she have another referral. call around and explain your needs and see if you can find a better fit. the money will just be a loss. that is really expensive, even for a pdoc. you are not obligated to go back just because you have seen him once. the pdoc relationship is really important. you need someone you can work with.

[Eliza Jane]

Originally Posted by Tangerine87

Like went to see a pdoc and I didn't really like him. He doesn't seem to be a good fit for me. I got this pdoc from my therapist but I didn't like him. Dunno what to do bc I paid $365 for first visit. I also don't have another referral. This pdoc specializes in kids, not adults but he was willing to see me bc of the referral. What do I do please help?

Don't see him. I was in a strangely similar situation where I paid a fortune to see a pdoc who primarily specialized in kids but dabbled in adults. He was super-arrogant (like many pdocs) and couldn't admit when he was out of his depth because he knew more about kids than adults. He gave me bad advice about medications during pregnancy instead of admitting that he didn't stay up to date with the new research on that issue (fortunately I switched pdocs after that and found someone good).

Would your GP know someone? Or even just look on your insurance website. Seeing a kid pdoc can really be a problem if you aren't a kid! Good luck!

I've got no advice, but I want to thank you and the other posters because I might need to switch insurance companies, so I asked my current pdoc for a referral. She gave me the name of someone who primarily sees kids, and my first thought was no, that I would just be a schedule filler. My primary care doc is like that--prefers kids and families and only tolerates single adults. And by tolerate, I mean she's impatient, egotistical and generally pissy. She gets great reviews from young moms, though. We have to want better for ourselves.

I'm really sorry you spent all that money, though. Such a strange referral. I don't get why anyone would see (or refer) patients that are not their specialty or preference.