[BeyondRedemption]

i live in the uk, i'm 16, can i get medication without my mum having to know?

what kind of meds?

[BeyondRedemption]

mainly ones to calm anxiety. but there's other problems aswell,s o i'm not entirely sure what the doctor would perscirbe

you would have to have, in US, your mom with you for doc to prescribe meds for anxiety.

why can't you tell your mom that you're anxious???

[BeyondRedemption]

because there's more to it than that. and i've tried telling her about it all before and she just said i was overreacting, making it up, looking for attention. it hurt. she just doesn't get it

[MountainGirl]

Try again. Sit your mother down and tell her that this really is how you feel, that you are not looking for attention. Tell her that you are seriously in need of mental health treatment, and that you wish to contact a doctor.

My mother used to do the same thing to me. I went to the doctor without her after she refused over and over again to take me. The mental health agency called her with me in the office, and it was only then that she realized that I really did need help.

*I am not telling you to go and do things without your mother's permission, just letting you know my story.*

If your mother refuses to take you, can you ask your father to take you, or a grandparent?

[BeyondRedemption]

thanks
the problem is though, she just doesn't get it. i don't know how to explain it, you'd have to know her to understand what i mean. she already has enough on her plate anyways. i don't really want her bothering about me aswell.
i don't really have anyone else. my step-dad is even worse. he doesn't even understand the simple fact that i just cannot fall asleep at nights. and my dad doesn't give a crap, he hasn't even bothered to even call in the past 2 years.
i might just go down on my own and see what they say. there's not much else i can do really. there isn't even a proper mental health agency anywhere near here. it sucks

[MountainGirl]

Please do not give up. Keep trying to get the help that you need and deserve. If you need to talk, feel free to PM me.

[drummergrl]

I'm sorry that your mother won't seem to listen to what you have to say. 16 is a difficult age as it is, you are between the adult, and yet still considered a "minor" in the eyes of the law. I do not think the drs. CAN treat you for depression
without the express permission of a parent/guardian....etc.
as you are a child in their eyes. You can get birth control w/o a consent, but help with your head is different!!
You are going to have to find an open window of opportunity for yourself and your mom, or try a counselor at the school you attend. That will open her eyes. Don't do anything rash, keep trying....sooner or later someone will answer your call.
Good luck.

[BeyondRedemption]

if that's true, it's a bit stupid. i can move out and have my own kids at 16, i shouldn't still have to get permission from my parent
and there isn't a counselor at my school

[drummergrl]

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I'm sorry Beyond! That's the law. It may sound stupid to you
but that's the way of the world. If you don't think so, then go try and get something and see for yourself.